Honey no one is worth hurtng yourself over..She choose another--maybe you are better off in the long run of things..Make yourself get out there and live each day..DO you know that no one has power over you..You need to be out there living and showing her that you can move on..As long as you are mopping about not only has she left you but she left you with misery.. Thats a double whammy and I don't think you should give her that kind of satisfaction..She's not worth it..Force a smile on your face and go for a walk to the store or park..All it takes is one day at a time..

For responding. It's really hard. I can't say that i ever loved anyone but her. She gave me the will to live when i didnt have any. I wish i could be selfish and love myself more. But she made it so much easier. She made me wanna love myself. Ive lived a very loveless life and i feel its not fair..

Honey, nothing is fair-you already know that..You allowed her too much control over your feelings..Loving oneself is not selfish--it is necessary..When you look in the mirror are you more comfortable seeing someone dressed nice or all nasty and dirty? You want to look nice that is part of loving oneself..
Life is what you make of it..You need to look at life and move onward..

Remember the sunshine

Let your tears flow, vent your hurt, anger, fears and allow the coming spring rains heal your heart ache....
When the cloud and darkness threaten to take your joy remember the sunshine

Remember flowers blooming and laughter in the air
Remember the children running in their play
Remember the cozy Sundays snuggled in down
Remember the smell of daisies in the rain

There is that time of day when it’s just before dark and dinner is on the stove
When you expect the sound of your loved ones voice calling on the phone
Let your tears flow, vent your hurt, anger, fears and allow the coming spring rains heal your heart ache....

Remember time in each others arms and the safety felt there
Remember the children running in their play
Remember the cozy Sundays when you walked together around the bend
Remember the smell of grass and hay in the rain


Can you remember the beauty of a rainbow at the end of a spring and summer rain
Do you recall your loved ones laughter amongst all the confusion of a winter’s day
Letting go of the now is the hardest anyone can ever do allowing the pain to wash away though desired may seem like a lover’s betrayal

Remember laughter in the air and the scent in the mist
Remember the children running in their play
Remember the cozy Sundays cooking out in the coolness of the mountains shade

Let your tears flow, vent your hurt, anger, fears and allow the coming spring rains heal your heart ache....
When the cloud and darkness threaten to take your joy remember the sunshine


kdlee 5/09

You have come to aplace where others can share your feelings. You will not always feel this lost or heartbroken. Here on eHealth, you have a bazillon people who could be your friend and help you through this.kdlee is right no one is worth hurting yourself over. Whose to say she won't change her mind and want ot come back to you? WOuld you take her, knowing she might run off again with another guy? My point is, how many times will you allow this girl to hurt you? Eat, sleep and start taking care of yourself. You can not change whats happened in the past....but you can take back control of your life. Get that chin up, man up dude, there are a lot of women out there. How do you KNOW you may not ever feel this way again? I believe you will, and I belive you may even find a deeper love from someone who will appreciate you.....Big Hug FGM

ive told my story a dozen times. i've been in a 5 year relationship with a verbally abusive guy, he proposed, change his mind, i lost atlease $30k on this guy.
one day he said he's moving out b/c he loves me but feel like he's missing out on something else. he got an apartment, i sold my duplex for him, we moved in with each other, and when another women took interest in him he told me to sleep in my son's room while he bring other women in the house.
he told me he's going to be mean to me until i leave.
i packed my bags and moved down south, i left all my furniture, computer..etc i was angry for a long time. but now i have someone that truely loves me and i have my peace. the girl my ex broke up with me over has since left him & she treated him badly. and he regrets everything.
actually fairy Godmother helped me get over my angry, and hate i had for him.
so i hope someone here can help you also.
i m sorry your going through that. all i can tell you is be strong, and it does get better, your heart will heal.

Hang in there! Everything happens for a reason!!! Even though it hurts so much right now- and you feel like life is not worth living- things will get better ! they will! it just takes time, and getting motivated to get out there and live life like its meant to be! Its not going to do you any good being down, just try to think of all of the good positive things that you learned from the relationship, focus on the things that you have learned from it, and benefited from. Even if they are simple things find it. I am sure you have friends and family that love and care about you, so pull together with them and surround yourself with them, they will assure you that you are a blessing in their lives as well. In a few weeks from now you will look back and see how much you have grown from this. You really will, it just takes time. I know everyone has probably told you that, so try to find hobbies or things to keep you occupied and get your mind off it. Things will turn around youll see! EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! I PROMISE! Take care of yourself and smile and laugh at the good things! patti:)

I haven't looked at what the others have said, but I was in the same situation as you...the girl I loved, was...her. I waited so long for that special girl to come along, we laughed, kissed...loved each other. Then she as yours didn't put up a fight for "us" and in the end she went off with someelse...God knows why... =(

it's been a year and a half, and at night I sometimes think about her...I was crying in my corner... 6months after, so a yaer ago, I had built up my nerve to delete her from msn, etc... and never speak to her again, it kills me to not know what she's doing and that if she was OK.

But that's life dude, we all go our own seperate way...it's sad, but it's for the best.

I'm starting to forget how I felt about her, it's kinda like a wave (sometimes I feel fine someother times I feel a bit sad).

There was a reply here saying that "nothing is fair" I believe that's half right. I believe that the things that are fair in life are things that we don't recognised in our day-to-day lives...
I mean, those who go to school > in the end they go to work to get paid.
Those who drop out of school > they find it harder because they haven't got any skills.
Everyone had the chance to go school, so that's fair. After that it's up to each one of us to decide what to do with our future...

Omg I know the feeling. I've been going thru a breakup for months now. Never seems to end. I am beginning to hate myself because i'm so dumb. I'm gay and thats enough to deal with but this is terrible. haven't been eating, sleeping and I find myself stalking him. He wont leave me alone and I wont allow him to leave me alone. I do anything to see him and I have sex with him whenever he wants knowing that he's promiscuous and has other sex partners. I need help..

ymechris,

people usually leave when they had enough and they cant take anymore. if you are in that stage, then i would suggest that you make sure you protect yourself, so you dont have to suffer any consequences. dont pile any other problems on your plate.

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