I finished her last night in a bar. We just got to the point where we always argue over stupid things like how to stack a dishwahser and ridiculous rubbish like that, its like we are making excuses to have a go at each other, we have only been together for a year and a month, its just been getting worse and worse and i cant take it anymore. she said nothing when i did it, just walks off with her back turned, then acts like nothing happened, smiles and laughter with her friend. am i really that easy to get over?
Were both students and live in the same apartment with 4 other people. I feel so alone since i finished with her, and yet i know she is only a door down... i feel so down id call it depressed, im eating and stuff, its just i feel i have no purpose now.
I feel like my heart is pulling out of my chest, and when i think about her. i cry now for godsake. But i know id just be torturing myself if i go back. im so lost.
Don't be lost, there are way too many girl's looking for someone who has the capacity to care. Arguing over trivial things is pretty normal, however, you have to decide what is most important and let the little things go. Everyone has their own way of doing things and that's what maked them individuals. I know its hard not to get caught up in the drama, but just let it go.
my ex pretended he didnt care when i broke up with him, because he didnt want to show that he was hurt so he acted like a tough guy.
a lot of couple have to learn the art of compromise and to respect each other's differences. however if you cant get along the best thing is to depart.
your heart will heal and you will be fine. i commend you for pulling out even though you still have feelings because i stayed until i fell out of love which resulted in five wasted years with a a-hole.
Hey "Firespasm", you need to do whats right for you, was this issue you were having talked about, or were you both living in a pretend world where things went from laughter to disaster in seconds? I had that with my boyfriend, and things can still be difficult because its hard to let things go when you love someone. And were you really arguing over how to stack the dishwasher, i mean that metaphoricly, was there some other larger issues you were ignoring, that caused you to snap at eachother over the little things? Because I've found when I fall out with my partner its hard to forgive them as you love them so much, you feel more let down by them than anyone else and it can build and build until you just... explode. Maybe I'm not making much sense right now, but I'd suggest you give it some time, if it doesn't get any better, maybe talk to her, just ask for some closure so you can move on. I hope this jumble of thoughts has helped.... Jess x