I have Herpes, and I'm scared to date

In June of 2009, I was raped, and as a result contracted genital herpes. I was 18. It's now 2 and a half years later, I'm 21, and having trouble getting the confidence to date. I have here and there, but I'm so terrified of being rejected that it makes it hard for me to actually get into anything serious with anyone.

I'd never sleep with someone without telling them, it's not like that. I'm afraid of sex because it means I have to tell whoever that may be, so I just don't have it, and don't date. I don't want to become a cat lady, so does anyone have advice for me?

Even people to talk to for support would help. I need to stop being so afraid.