In June of 2009, I was raped, and as a result contracted genital herpes. I was 18. It's now 2 and a half years later, I'm 21, and having trouble getting the confidence to date. I have here and there, but I'm so terrified of being rejected that it makes it hard for me to actually get into anything serious with anyone.
I'd never sleep with someone without telling them, it's not like that. I'm afraid of sex because it means I have to tell whoever that may be, so I just don't have it, and don't date. I don't want to become a cat lady, so does anyone have advice for me?
Even people to talk to for support would help. I need to stop being so afraid.
Welcome to ehealthforum,
There are many singles with the Herpes infection searching for partners. You can try and join the Herpes forums/websites to find someone with whom you can relate. If needed, you should go ahead with getting counseling done to help you cope up with your feelings and build up your self confidence.
I caught herpes when I was 18 as well, when my girlfriend cheated on me and gave it to me. I have now had it for 29 years. It's not the end of the world. I enjoyed a pretty good life of dating and then getting married,and you can as well.
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