I am sorry I jsut saw this post--I wish there was an easy answer but you said your culture will not allow your leaving..You are at an age for marraige?..There is always a better way in dealing with life sometimes it's just holding on to those dreams until you can see them through..Don't give up if you truly love this guy then he and you will need to show your parents he is good for you..kd

thanks for ur reply but i really want to marry now i'm in my late 20s and don't know how to tell them i'm scared to talk to them because they 'll get mad. but it's my life and i truly love and trust him . i don't know how to show my parents that he's good for me .i'm so fed up of this i really want to tell them but don't know how?

Stand Up for yourself!Your old enough!Tell them your ready to be grown up and make your own decisions!And at your age i don't think you need there approval!

Honey,

Unless you have some kind of ailment that prohibits you from making ratinal decisions you need to let them know that you are of age you can choose for yourself.. Let them know you love them but must make the decision to marry him and ask for their blessing.. But, let them know that you love him and will marry no mater what..That for all of you it would be better for their blessing so that the family will be stronger for it..

If need be print out your posts and put it on the table ask them to read and then discuss.. Get that inner strength..If you can't do this with your parents then you do not need to marry at this time in your llife..Marriage is about discussions and trials that must be overcome to survive..

I wish you , your fellow and parents the best..Keep in mind they only want the best for you and if they know something negative then hear them out..Main thing now is to talk..

thanks for you replies.. but i dont know how to tell them they are not ready to listen . MY bf is very nice person from a good family and very hardworking person. MY parent's problem is that they dont want me to marry with someone of my choice they want to arrange someone to marry me which i am totally against ...i have told them about that i dont like the idea of getting married to some anonymous guy . i wish i had parents who knew to sort things out by communication .

since they are against it i think you should think very wisely before doing any thing i understand how you feel you need to at least take ur mother to your side try to make her your friend. and talk to her about ur feelings don't tell her a bout the relationship. but tell her that some one wants to ask for your hand or their permeation to marry you. your mother is a female and she should understand cause she has feelings. some times parents are right and they do have a point if they refuse this marriage they see what you can't see. you need to be sure that you want this guy because he is a good guy who would be a great husband and father. don't marry him if you think he is the only way out of this controlling family because in this case you will suffer all your life stuck in a horrible marriage i know guys whom are very charming and once they are husbands they are horrible and disgusting