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August 14th, 2011
Need alittle advise. let me start but telling you the situation. I have known her for almost a year and we both had a thing for each other but didn't do anything about it till alittle more then a month ago. She has been married for a year, I know she loves her husband but I don't think she is in love with him anymore. We talk all day and night long, she will call me or text me every chance she gets and we meet get together acouple times a week. We have not had sex yet but just recently kissed, I have not wanted to rush things cause I don't want to push her. Everytime we talk neither of us want to get off the phone and it kills me when I don't get to talk to her. She is the most amazing woman I have ever met and everthing I have ever looked for. I know its been a short time but I have been in love before and this is love. We have both said that we know we are perfect for each other and would be so happy together. My biggest problem is I don't know if this will ever go somewhere. I am scared to talk to her about if she would leave her husband yet because its only been a little more then a month. I just don't know if I should give it more time and see what happens or should I talk to her know about it. Should I back away alittle or push a little harder. The whole thing is just driving me crazy cause I have never wanted to be with someone this much.
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CarolineEF
replied August 15th, 2011
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Hi midnightsports and welcome to ehealth: First of all, you do know that you are playing with fire...Second, how old are you and how old is she?...Does she have kids?...Do you work with her or how did this get started?...Take care..

Caroline
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midnightsports
replied August 15th, 2011
Thanks for the reply. I do know that this is a bad situation and would of never done it but you can't help who you fall for. to answer the rest of the questions, I am 32 she is 31, she does have 2 kids which I think are great and they really like me too. We do not work together but met through boy scouts.
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CarolineEF
replied August 15th, 2011
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Hi again: From what you are saying then you both know what you are getting into...Consider the fact that you are going to disrupt her children who are just getting used to a new Father figure in their life...From what you have said this is her second marriage....Is she playing I love him, I love him not with life?...Or are you just the object of an affair that can hurt you more than you know?...

I would say walk away...From my experiences in life I have found that women are more willing to have a sexual interlude then men are...I'm not sure if they are looking for an added thrill or a feather in their cap...You see my husband has had more than a few women come after him in our married life...One even called him from a hotel here in town to meet him...She was so positive that he would be there that she flew 300 miles with him in mind...I guess the one thing that would stick in the back of my mind would be, if she would do this to him, she would also do it to you.....

Honey, life is not easy....Don't get hurt more than you have to....Take care...

Caroline
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Rebekah22
replied August 23rd, 2011
She's an amazing woman? I don't think so. She sounds like she's run by her emotions, which means you'll probably lose her the same way it sounds like her husband will probably lose her!

She's MARRIED! Doesn't that mean anything to you? Obviously it doesn't mean anything to her, and she'll reap what she's sowing, but if you're not careful you will also.

Don't let this woman corrupt and deceive you. She sounds troubled. Anyone who's been married only a year and is kissing another man is troubled and needs direction in their life.

Think about it. She had a wedding day with all her friends and family with her current husband. She promised to love, cherish, and honor him all the days of her life. She and her husband entered a marriage covenant with each other. You're supposed to keep your promise of love and devotion to your spouse all the days of your life, and she's already failed by one year. This shows you how she keeps, or more accurately, breaks promises. She does not honor her husband, and will not honor your either, because she's missing something inside her that she's trying to fill, which is why she's messing all this stuff up.

Stay away from her and married women in general.
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