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Confused I don't really know where to begin, but here it goes...

1) One of the main causes of my depression was the loss of my grandfather in November last year. He wasn't just the normal grandpap you see everyonce in a while. I spent countless hours over at his house during the summer. Him and my grandmother babysat me since I was a 1 year old. I practically lived in their house because my parents worked so much. He was the kind of grandpap that loved to get hugs before all his grandchildren left. He would always carry me around on his shoulders when I was a young kid. He always knew how to make me laugh no matter what. As I'm writing this my eyes are burning up, my throat is clenching itself, my mouth is drying up , and I miss him so much... I just want him to come back. I don't think I've ever loved someone as much as I loved him. I don't think there's anything that can cure this. I've been having dreams with him lately, and It's always the same. The family is eating dinner at my grandpap's house. It's like everything was exactly the same as it was before, but I soon realize that it's a dream. I end up running to him and yelling at him "Are you real!?" And shaking him, crying wildly. I usually wake up with tears down my face. It's been 4 months and I'm still crying violently about him. It hurts every time I write about him. I just want to see him again.

2) Girls. I've been told I'm very attractive, and that I'm "hot". But I have self esteem issues anyways. No matter what I think, I do not think of myself as attractive. I always shoot myself down, and I'm extremely timid around girls. Everytime a girl opens up to me or shows me any kindness I end up liking them, a lot. It's always the same after than, "you're a really nice guy, but I just want to be friends." I don't understand why my personality isn't attractive as a boyfriend. And yes, if you are wondering I am still a virgin. Although I really want to just give it up. I haven't even gotten a hand job or anything. I've just kissed two girls before. And the two girls that I kissed led me on. They didn't really like me. In the past few months up here at college I've fallen for a girl. A girl named Kelsey, who is beautiful, and such a sweet girl. But, every time I gather the courage to ask her our on a date, she's always busy. I've asked her six or seven times. I've given up her. I've told her I liked her, and she told me she doesnt want to have anything to do with guys.

3) I always worry about what others think of me. No matter what, even if it's someone I don't like. I'm always worried. I don't want anyone to hate me, even though it happens. My childhood in middle and high school was terrible. I had two friends that I truly cared about, and I don't even get to see them anymore up here at college. Throughout middle school I was hated for the fact that I didn't have a lot of money. And I'm hated because I'm quote on quote an atheist.... I bet many of you will judge right now. "Oh, he's an atheist that's why he's depressive..." I got beat up in middle school and the freshman year of high school because of both these reasons. I was also ridiculed because of who I was friends with. I was friends with the nerdy kids/fat kids, because I really liked them. They were nice, fun, and caring, and that's why I liked them.

I wasn't always like this. I alway thought it was something that would pass. I didn't worry so much about girls. Now, all I want is a girl that I can care for and love. I can't find her. I can barely find a girl that acknowledges me more than just a friend.

4) I'm not doing that well in school. I have around a 2.3-2.5 GPA. No matter what I do, I always do terrible on tests. I worry myself to death about them. Even if I do know most of the answers I still screw up. I'm afraid I'm going to screw up and mess my life up by not doing well in college.

There's more but I think this is enough for you guys to know. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for reading Sad
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replied March 5th, 2008
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Hey dude

First off im always open to listen to anyone

Im really sorry for the loss of your grandpa bro, In relation to girls bro, i used to be the same until i met the girl of my dreams she found me and i didnt really want to be with her at first but then it just worked out that was i was 18 when i lost my virginity, and shes the only girl ive been with and to this day i still half self esteem issues, As for your third issue, i think as much or as little as u worry about if people hate u or not it is going to happen, no matter what u do or how much u try to impress people, Id like to talk to you a bit more do u have msn mate if u do ill be glad to add you and talk to you Smile Just pm me ur email address Smile

Cameron
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replied March 5th, 2008
*edit-email address removed. please do not give out any personal information. if you need to get in contact with another member, send them a private message*

I hope that happens soon Confused
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replied March 5th, 2008
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Sorry mate they must of edited your email i will send u a private message with my email so u can add me bro Smile
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replied March 7th, 2008
Thank you for sharing your thoughts -- I know it can be really hard to open up like this with strangers, but glad to see how warm and inviting this community is.
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replied April 5th, 2010
Its okay dont feel that way i feel you dawg
I no what it feels like to lose sombody you really love and to feel the passion for that person but dont worry it will get better you ahve to trust me i no waht im talking about you have to pray to god and cry let it out till you cant cry anymore then one day you will get full recovery back and you will be able to live your life and dont worry youll see him again in heaven and he sounds like a wonderful person maybe we will meet in heaven
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replied April 17th, 2010
did you go to your grandpa's funeral? that is a good way to say goodbye. x
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