me and my partner have been together for 3 years ,i have a daughter from a previous relationship and we have a son together who is 16 month old.For the past 6 months we are more like friends living together and very rarely go out or take part in any family activities, we dont make love for months on end and when i come on to him he says im putting him off as he feels like he has to preform to a high level ?I understand that family life can get you down and tired etc ,i go to kiss him or show him affection in anyway and he shrugs me off saying that he dosent like being mawled ,he just dosent have anytime for me all he does is sits watching tv and more often than not falls asleep on the sofa .i cry most nights ,and my confidence is nill ,he has told me its not me and that its him that he has got lazy and is in a rutt but what do i do in the mean time ? im 29 and he is 27 i just didnt expect this from a 3 year relationship can someone please help?