my ex smoked weed, he was immature, he hung out with guys that smoked weed and went to nude bars, and didnt have respect for women. it didnt bother me at the time. but now i would never date a guy who does that. my ex acted like he does it because of stress until he was forced to stop doing it (court ordered urine test). then he got a really good job and had to stop. is he working or trying to be a good father and boyfriend, if not i would leave him.