Hello everybody, I am a add'er
And yes I am calm.
To make it short, i just got a new job.
I feel very comfertable at there, and also with the people working there.
I made some new friends and stuff, and everybody who i meet I have a pleasant conversation with.
But later on I go to give my paycheck to the people who helped me to get the job.
And one of my chefs are there, saying I am too calm and I dont have team spirit.
Which I dont understand. In the mean time everybody is laughing at me like i am some shy animal. Which I am not, i was just standing there calm(duo my pills). They were all staring at me, like I am so cute shy thing or something. In my mind I was like what shut up ?, whats wrong with u guys(Sorry for the cursing). I am just giving my paycheck away. I didnt feel shy at all :S not blushed or anything. At the end I felt just akward, and walked akward and confused away.
Is my self-protait so wrong? I mean I made new friends, had lots of laughs with them. I feel very social, and helping.I did not talk much to my chef, because hes my chef. I mean did he not even ask my colleges how i am. Or do really have this shy body langauge?
And whats so wrong about being calm? Its not like I am a anti-social or something.
Man this makes me so angry.
edit: In comparison with my colleges I dont act different at all. Two of my friends also dont say a thing to chefs. And they arent stereotyped as a calm person.
Really this makes me wonder, I have a very symphatic face. And sometimes I have the feeling that people think I need to be SUPER social and nice and SUPER outgoing. But I am just being myself, and I am not a bad/akward/anti-social etc. person at all! If I say myself, I did a awesome job at my new job. Only made one mistake in one week.
I am so angry atm :S
It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. People are different especially at the work place. There's pressure to keep up, do a good job and some people just don't want to be there. It might not be you at all. Maybe that chef has something going on in his life that's stressful or that's just the way he is. You never know.
Personally, I prefer to work around people like you. You sound very humble and easy going. Maybe your generosity caught him off guard! Just be yourself. That's more than enough :] Also, with new jobs, Things usually calm down once everyone adjusts so give it some time and stick with the more positive co workers.
Thanks for your reply.
I felt really sucky yesterday
Still kinda today, sadly.
I think I wont be working there anymore, man i really enjoy working there. O well
It still frustates me because I did a great job there, and i did nothing wrong. ARGG o well, thats life i guess.