I am 27 years old. I have been unemployed for at least 6 years now - by choice. In my previous line of work i made enough money to last me for quite a while. I used to never get bored. When i was done with my jobs i was grateful for any quiet time i could get. To my problem. I dont get any joy out of anything. I have no interests, no hobbies. The people that i hang out with think they're my friends but i dont consider them friends. They talk behind my back to my wife how i am not normal and how its weird that i dont do anything and they say theyre worried but none of them have the balls to speak to me. I have to hear it from my wife. If i approach my "friends" they say everything is ok and they never said anything. The only friends that i have are my wife and my daughter. A few months ago i noticed change in the way i think. I started realizing that some day my daughter will be all grown up and will have a life of her own without me. I love spending time with her but eventually that will stop. Change is in the nature of things. Like i said, i have no hobbies. Everything i touch bores me. The thought of picking up some kind of activity repulses me. I used to read comics, play xbox or watch movies and stuff like that but i quit all that. We had a car accident a few months back and i noticed i dont feel the way i am supposed to. I felt downright bored. No stress or anxiety or whatever people are supposed to feel.
I really dont know whats going on. I dread the day my little girl leaves for university. I will have no purpose in life anymore. Whats worse is that its not like the people i know that have depression when they say stuff like i cant take the sadness anymore and that its all too much for them and they want to kill themselves. I actually weighed the pros and cons of living and dying. i have no desire to live or die. either way would be fine except for my family. they would be devestated if i werent around. Is this typical depression? should i go to a psychologist? what could they possibly do aside from putting me on meds? I have excellent health care so it shouldnt be a problem but when i think about going i just feel like meh whats the point. Any advice?
hi, it dose sound like depression (it can be syimptomised by lack of emotion rather than negitive ones)
you may find that doing a part time or volintery job helps with the bordom, it you have perticuler ict skills or other tecnical qualifications most charites will welcome you with open arms, perticuly if youare not worryed about beeing payed.
seeing your dr may help as sometimes druges to stableise the mood can help but it sounds yours is more of a bordum based problem. but there may alos be supresed emation about the accident, it may be a taliking theripy is the most helpfull sulotion for this problem and help you to move on. the best starting point is probaly to see your dr and get a proper assesment.
dong a callage course ao learing a new practical skill could also be a way of releving the bordom
I feel the same way. Here's what I did. I started taking crazy risks. I shoplifted. Got caught once, but the store didn't press charges. I picked fights with people. Got my ass kicked twice because I don't know how to fight. Trust me when I tell you there is nothing more exhilarating getting punched and kicked so hard blood comes out of you. I fake seizures in public places, once a movie theater, once in traffic court.
You're stuck in a rut, that's all. Do something FUN and EXCITING, not what the sheep consider normal, and YOU WILL WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLUMBER. Don't knock it until you try it. Quit being a coward.