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From the description of the history, the only issue here, is your psychological thinking and anxiety that you have HIV.
First and foremost, the chances of being infected with HIV via sharing a dildo or other sex toys is very less likely.
HIV is diagnosed based on the serological detection in the blood samples, and not from the symptoms that you âmight ââbe having. A person after exposure to HIV can get âtested as early as 4 weeks to 12 weeks with the ELISA for âHIV ââantibody test. â
â90% of normal individuals who have HIV âexposure, will seroconvert within 4-6 weeks. The âsensitivity âof the ELISA âtest is 99.9%. â
To clear your doubts of HIV, you might get yourself tested with a HIV antibody test, which will help you get over the past and relieve all your anxiety.
You might also consult with a psychiatrist or your doctor who can counsel you properly.