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radar111

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don't feel anything during sex Posted: 02-29-08 16:42pm


hi well, I'm in a sexual relationship. It's my second one, and we've been having intercourse for the past three months. My problem is that when we have intercourse, I don't feel anything. I don't feel him go in, go out, or when he lets off. We tried a vibrating ring, and I still felt nothing. I'm wondering what's wrong with me, and I am definitely too scared to tell him. It was the same with my other partner, I felt nothing. Please help!!

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Posted: 02-29-08 22:47pm


like you physically can't feel it or it just doesn't feel good?

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Posted: 02-29-08 23:38pm


More details? If you mean that you can't orgasm with penatration alone then you are not abnormal. Most women need additional stimulation like clitoral to enable the ability to orgasm. I very rarely climax from just penatration, I need additional stimulation.

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Posted: 03-01-08 17:22pm


like i don't feel any physical change. I can't feel him inside of me...

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Posted: 03-01-08 17:22pm

run4life10 wrote:

like you physically can't feel it or it just doesn't feel good?

as in, i can't physically feel it.

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Posted: 03-01-08 19:53pm


I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?

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Posted: 03-01-08 22:50pm


Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.

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Posted: 03-10-08 00:22am


I know what you mean--sometimes I feel that way too. Can you feel it better if he puts a finger or two inside you? For some reason that gives me a lot more sensation. Or maybe you're using too much lubricant. Try using very little. Or try having him vary how fast or how slow he moves. You might also not be doing enough foreplay to arouse you, since intercourse often does more for the guy than the woman, no matter what the movies make it seem like! I think we women have to work harder to figure out what feels good. I can't climax at all from penetration alone, never, and I've been having sex for over 10 years. I heard that less than 20 % of women can, so don't feel bad about that. I was also wondering what your opinions are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't seem to find mine or climax from it, no matter what position. Was I just born without one or is this a common experience?

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Posted: 03-10-08 23:18pm

freakyfashionista wrote:

I was also wondering what your opinions are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't seem to find mine or climax from it, no matter what position. Was I just born without one or is this a common experience?

Well Fashionista, I don't really think I have one either, so you and I are in the same boat, although even fingering makes me feel nothing. I think i'm out of luck and it's only going to be a mental feeling of closeness to him. Which in all, really sucks, and I'm going to go to my doctor about it this week, since my boyfriend and I are now engaged! and i really would actually be able to like sex. Embarassed

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Posted: 03-10-08 23:22pm

antigone wrote:

Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.

I've done Kegal exercises, and yes I definitely have tried movig my hips and pelvis, but feel nothing. In fact, I feel nothing even with the insertion of an ice cube. It sounds crazy, but it didn't even have a feeling of coldness, whereas I'm assuming others would screech at even the thought of this.

[quote="Birch']I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?[/quote]

NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail bone back in grade seven, but even then I had no feeling.

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Posted: 03-10-08 23:22pm

antigone wrote:

Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.

Birch wrote:

I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?

NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail bone back in grade seven, but even then I had no feeling.

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Posted: 03-11-08 01:22am


Though I haven't really heard of someone being completely numb, many women cannot orgasm just off vaginal penetration. I can't either, and though I can't remember exactly what the percent is (Eiri correct me if I'm wrong) but I think it was something like only 30% of women can, so its a pretty common thing. Can you orgasm off of clitoral stimulation? In order for me to orgasm during sex either my boyfriend or myself need to stimulate my clit, whether its just touching or picking a position where his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would that help? Congrats on your engagement!

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Posted: 03-11-08 15:39pm

Maddie34 wrote:

Though I haven't really heard of someone being completely numb, many women cannot orgasm just off vaginal penetration. I can't either, and though I can't remember exactly what the percent is (Eiri correct me if I'm wrong) but I think it was something like only 30% of women can, so its a pretty common thing.

Can you orgasm off of clitoral stimulation? In order for me to orgasm during sex either my boyfriend or myself need to stimulate my clit, whether its just touching or picking a position where his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would that help?

Congrats on your engagement! Very
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I'm completely numb. I can't feel anything, let alone orgasm. I'm more stimulated just him feeling my breasts, as I feel nothing during sex, or even oral. And as for trying to stimulate, it would be great, if I could even feel him inside me. but thanks.

And thanks for the congrats, although I know I have to either get this checked out or tell him the truth.

We just recently bought studded condoms, and a vibrating ring, and i can't even feel those.

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Posted: 03-11-08 16:08pm


No no, your clit is outside of your vagina and does not require penetration in order to stimulate. Have you ever masturbated on your own? Did you feel penetration with your first relationship?

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Posted: 03-11-08 17:23pm


There's a book called For Yourself by Lonnie Barbach, a doctor, that really helped me when I didn't know how to stimulate yourself--yes, it sounds weird that anyone would need a book to learn that, but I did! It helped so much that I got it for my two closest female friends. They used it and it helped them too--none of us were very experienced at that point! It might not help with intercourse, but if you know how to stimulate yourself, then you can do that when you are having sex and your partner will be glad that you're having a good time, even if it isn't just from intercourse with him. As far as having an orgasm from intercourse alone, I have absolutely no idea how it's done. I've heard that there are lots of sensitive spots inside us but haven't found them myself.

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Posted: 03-20-08 21:25pm


dear radar111, have you been to your doctor and learned anything?