Hi, this is my first post. I've been feeling down off and on since grade eight, and I'm in grade ten down. In eighth grade out of no where I just started feeling bad, I felt that no one liked me and I wasn't useful. So I left my old school because I thought no one would care. When I got to my new school it was a little hard at first, but I made friends and it was great up until a few months ago. I started feeling down again, but this time there was a cause. My school had a semi-formal in December and I wanted to see what would happen if I invite a guy (just a friend), well... it didn't work out at al. The whole thing blew up in my face, I knew before that it wasn't going to turn out good but I didn't want to waste my money, =p. Well the guy I brought actually just came cuz my close friend came, then no more than an hour after the formal was over he texts me asking what she thinks about him. Well then everything just went awkward... but enough about that. Now I just feel pathetic. I want to change some things about me, but I'm struggling. I don't know what my problem is exactly. I'm pissed at that friend of mine even though the whole thing was my fault and I overreacted, but still. I'm pissed at myself. I guess I'm just pissed.
PLEASE share your thoughts on what's wrong with me, I've been pissed for too long now and I don't know how to stop.
You're a teenager is the problem. You have hopes and expectations but other people just don't measure up so you feel bad about yourself. You shouldn't as it is they who have failed, not you.
Take pride in yoiurself and don't lower your standards to be "one of them". As soon as you do then your life is always going to be on their terms. You responding to them and feeling bad when they fail over and over again.
Forget about all that, think through what you think you are, as a person. What do you think about, what do you really want and how will you achieve that. Don';t be dragged down by what others do and say. Most of them are failures and they want you to be one too. Rise above it all.
And the most obvious thing to do is see a doctor and get referred for therapy. Talking this stuff out is absolutely the best way to resolve it and come out as YOU. Do not expect the therapist to tell you what to do. They will help and guide but it is you who must find what you are and want and then find out how to become that.
Today I am totally confident about me and the rest? That's up tyo them. I do things my way and hope they can meet me.
I couldn't agree with Oneofus more, there's nothing wrong with you its just a difficult situation that I don't think anyone would envy. I have often had thoughts abouts what's wrong with ME or why is it no one likes ME and so on and the problem (as Oneofus said already) isn't you! Many people have preconceptions of how everybody should be or act, we have them ourselves as well but you have to remember that you are you, you are perfectly fine the way you are and people will have to accept that. Its natural to be upset or 'pissed' when things don't go the way we want them to but as long as you get a handle on that angry, upset or disappointment and don't let it over come you then your doing fine.