I do feel for you, this is definitely a woman's curse. We still don't have that many options as far as relief, aside from HRT. But, like you, wouldn't want to chance it...I have even heard that soy does not work..The only other thing that i have found helpful is exercise and detox baths. As long as you dont have high-blood pressure, the detox baths are wonderful...Go online and get the recipes for the most popular ones; which are epsom salts, ginger, and baking soda..I love the organic vinegar one..will make you sweat more on initial night of baths, but will help normalize the sweating, believe it or not!