Me and this guy have known each other for 3 months and we dated for 2 weeks.Well I decided to end it a couple of days ago.I really liked him because he was different and I felt like he understood me.He was really big into drugs and drinking like every day.He treated me like crap but yet I still tried with him.He did alot of bad things.Well he decided to quit everything.He stayed sober for a week then one day he decided to get drunk again and treat me like crap again.So I had enough and decided to break it off.I don't know why but for these last couple of days I have been crying and I miss him so much.I have some sort of attachment to him.It's weird because I have been in relationships for a really long time and wasn't as upset as I am now.Any advice on to move on and let go of him for good?
There is no easy way to get over a broken heart. No advice from the wisest psychologist will make you hurt less.
Take pride in the fact that you did the right thing, though. I was stupid enough to marry one of these asses. The sooner you get out, the better.
I think that you have a hard time to let go because he made you feel that you could make a difference in his life. After all: while you were in a relationship he actually stopped the drinking and the drugs. Things like this give one a sense of self worth. (Experience speaking) If you stayed you would have had nothing to look forward to but one big emotional rollercoaster.
I think a lot of it is, you feel he chose alcohol and drugs over you. That hurts. If he truly cared he would drop it for you, although he mauy have an addiction problem and he may be able to get help for it. All you can do is encourage him to better himself.
You seem very strong and i'm proud of you for doing what needed to be done. I hope things work out for you either way
I sort of have the same problem except im pregnant with my losers baby. And we were together for 6 years, he has hurt me emotionally so much, its started just like you with the drugs and drinking he stopped and then right back to it.IT WILL NEVER CHANGE!!!get out now while your still strong or you may end up like me and be an emotional mess
my babys dad is so nasty so is his mum he left me when i was 2 months and now that ive had our son he whats to meet him ,like i want him to but at the same time i dont i just dont know its so hard im over him as for his ma she was all ways telling him my son isnt his and we did a dna test omg i can go on best thing u can do is get over them right
he knows he hurt you and it seems thats what he wants, you can do better than this and you should no that, wipe away those tears and get on with life you will find someone who treats you properly. You feel attatched because he had control of you and still has by the sound of it you will soon come to your senses just stay out of contact with him and cheer up.
Perhaps it`s not so much him that you actually need to get over, but rather, your own out of control emotion? Generally, in a going out together relationship context, you can only help those that most require it through friendship, but often it`s from behind a desk which ultimately proves the most useful.
If you`re able to separate your emotion, come attachment, from how wonderful as a person this guy actually is, I sincerely believe that this process will help you enormously - It has always worked very well for me!