I am pretty much the same way, I cannot orgasm just through intercourse alone, many women cannot do it that way. The first time my fiance gave me oral it took a long time for me to orgasm, for some people it can require alot of time to get off that way. I'm the opposite with him rubbing me, I get off quicker when he does it so I'm not sure what to tell ya there. Wish I could help you more

the good thing is that you can orgasm by yourself. that tells me that nothing is "broken" with you.

most women can't have an orgasm by penis in vagina stimulation only. you're not alone. there's nothing wrong with "helping things out a bit" and rubbing one off while being penetrated. frankly, i enjoy this.

the oral thing is harder to fathom, but it's mental (at least in my opinion). women have a hard time sometimes "letting go" and giving up control over their orgasms. there are so many things that enter our minds when a guy is going down town on us. all of those things can be a total buzz kill (or orgasm kill). what you have to do to overcome this is to "clear your mind beforehand, and let yourself go" during the experience. don't analyze what's taking place, just let it happen and focus on how good it feels instead of one of 1,000 other distractions that tend to jump on us ladies.

good luck. jasmine

You have probably figured out that the clitoris is it. It is the key to your orgasm. Men are not taught this and they think that the in and out motion oin the vagina can get you off.

About 70% of women can not orgasm at all during intercourse alone. The anatomy is just such that there are not enough friction between him and your clitoris to get you off during sex. My advice is to help yourself or jump on top where you can grind away you like to get you off.

With oral you should tell him what to do. You know when your arousal increase or decrease so why not tell him what he should do. You should also not relax totally during oral. Tension and concentration is necessary during oral like during masturbation or any other sex.