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I am not a good mother Posted: 04-26-08 07:20am
because I didn't know how to protect my
daughter, this was when we were to board
the elevator yesterday one of the
neighbour's son (abt three years old)
showed a kicking sign to my daughter (who
is eight) and then pushed my daughter in
her stomach, I just kept quiet my mind
went blank it was because an incident
happened few minutes prior to that.
My daughter's classmate's mate came to me
and asked wheather my daughter have any
library books that her daughter borrowed
last year for my daughter. She claimed
that my daughter did have the library card
so that's why her daughter borrowed on my
daughter's behalf. The mother came to me
for the second time the first time was
because she and her daughter came to my
house on my daughter's birthday saying
that my daughter invited them however it
was because her daughter pressured my
daughter to for your address.
Can anyone tell me how to 'get rid' of
this guilty feeling? My daughter told me
it's okay as I have already done so when
the classmate mother came to see me and
it didn't hurt her in anyway however I
still have this feeling that I am no good
as a mom and I can't protect her.
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killbill
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Posted: 04-29-08 12:12pm
So, your daughter's classmate's mother
asked you for library books and also
brought her daughter to your daughter's
birthday even though she wasn't invited?
Are you trying to say this classmate of
your daughter's is bullying her? I don't
understand why this would stop you from
protecting her. Your message is a little
bit hard to understand but I'm sure you
are a good mother. Maybe you just need
some help standing up to people when they
are hurting you and therefore feel like
you can't protect your daughter either.
Do you have family or friends who can help
you with this? Have you spoken with the
teacher or principle of her school?
You obviously want to protect your girl
because you love her and just because you
need some help doing so doesn't make you a
bad mother. I realise no one has answered
this post because maybe it is hard to
understand your english. Maybe it would
be easier if you spoke to someone about it
in person so you can make yourself
understood better. But don't think you
are a bad mother because someone else hurt
your daugher. I think if you talk to
someone in your life who can help you work
on this, you will feel better.
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Hart74
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Posted: 04-30-08 01:16am
Thanks killbill, I think you're right my
English may not be easy to understand as I
am not somewhere near there, okay what
actually happened was this girl 'S' mum
came to me saying that her daughter
borrowed some books on my daughter's
behalf using her library card last October
and it wasn't returned to the library and
she (the daugher) can't borrow any book as
there was an outstanding penalty fee for
not giving back the books which now
mounting to about $100 plus. The thing is
there aren't such books and to make the
matter worst the matter now was brought up
to the class teacher who doesn't know
anything. Anyway I don't mind paying for
the books if my daughter really took them
but there wasn't anything that indicate
that she did.
To answer your question are there anyone
to help me to with this, there's no one
else I have been taking care of everything
that is eversince all my children were
born, my husband doesn't really give me
the support I really need he only know how
to provide economy support for other
matters he let me to solve it when he got
to know about this matter he wanted to
'shout' at that girl's mum but lucky I
handle it the diplomacy way. Thanks for
replying to my post killbill I appreciates
it a lot. - Hart74
