So, your daughter's classmate's mother asked you for library books and also brought her daughter to your daughter's birthday even though she wasn't invited? Are you trying to say this classmate of your daughter's is bullying her? I don't understand why this would stop you from protecting her. Your message is a little bit hard to understand but I'm sure you are a good mother. Maybe you just need some help standing up to people when they are hurting you and therefore feel like you can't protect your daughter either. Do you have family or friends who can help you with this? Have you spoken with the teacher or principle of her school?

You obviously want to protect your girl because you love her and just because you need some help doing so doesn't make you a bad mother. I realise no one has answered this post because maybe it is hard to understand your english. Maybe it would be easier if you spoke to someone about it in person so you can make yourself understood better. But don't think you are a bad mother because someone else hurt your daugher. I think if you talk to someone in your life who can help you work on this, you will feel better.

Thanks killbill, I think you're right my English may not be easy to understand as I am not somewhere near there, okay what actually happened was this girl 'S' mum came to me saying that her daughter borrowed some books on my daughter's behalf using her library card last October and it wasn't returned to the library and she (the daugher) can't borrow any book as there was an outstanding penalty fee for not giving back the books which now mounting to about $100 plus. The thing is there aren't such books and to make the matter worst the matter now was brought up to the class teacher who doesn't know anything. Anyway I don't mind paying for the books if my daughter really took them but there wasn't anything that indicate that she did.

To answer your question are there anyone to help me to with this, there's no one else I have been taking care of everything that is eversince all my children were born, my husband doesn't really give me the support I really need he only know how to provide economy support for other matters he let me to solve it when he got to know about this matter he wanted to 'shout' at that girl's mum but lucky I handle it the diplomacy way. Thanks for replying to my post killbill I appreciates it a lot. - Hart74