help me ihave a boy friend who is already married for 4 yrs and now i have get married with another person now my new life was good enough but my ex boy friend is in contact and he is expecting me back to him what to do my husbend doesnot now the matter plzzzzz help me
Since you have mentioned that you are already married and your new life was good, It is unclear why you still have any doubts in the current relationship.
It would have been understandable, in case you were unhappy in your relation with your husband, and were looking a way out. But since everything is going good, it would be in your best interest to not rock the boat you are currently in, but to make sure that it continues to sail in smooth waters.
You might inform your ex-boyfriend in plain words about your decision.
In case of any doubts, you might consult a psychiatrist for counselling and proper guidance.
It's actually not a difficult situation. You're married! You made a promise to your husband the day you married him. If your promises are only good for as long as you FEEL like keeping them, then what are they worth? Nothing.
You made a vow to your husband, you need to keep it. If marriage means so little that it's so easily thrown away, why get married in the first place?
If you value yourself, your husband, and don't want extra, unneeded stress in your life, be devoted to your husband, and no other man. Keep the marriage covenant and keep your promises!
firstly deepak gave a very clinical answer. my quesion to you, is did you marry this new guy because you were not getting anywhere with the guy your now seeing. if so, the answer is there. he was the wrong choice for you then, and he probably still is.... the next question is, in your heart did you marry a guy that you were and are truly happy with that you can take your last breath with, that you look at in silence and stare into his eyes and share love in that moment..... you may have married the wrong guy as a reaction to getting nowhere with.... the other wrong guy. maybe, if you havent gone too far with the out of marriage guy you could talk with your husband about it, if its true love, he will be hurt and there will be problems because of it, but youll get through it together, which is the whole point of marriage hey mate.... joining forces, 2 being stronger than 1...... a life full of memories with just 1 person, how wonderful....EBH
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