You might want to be careful about saying you want to die on forums like this. Although a select few, like me, understand the difference between wanting to kill oneself and just wanting to die, if you say that on sites like this you will get blasted with condescending advice to not kill yourself, you have so much to live for, blah, blah, blah. So everyone, let's not bug the guy about that. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, but I'm gonna try to use my experiences to help you.

I'm guessing you may have a problem with getting too hung up on one particular girl too soon. Until recently I had only had little crushes on girls. But then I met this one at work and I was like "Oh my God she's awesome, this definitely feels like more than a crush, I've never felt anything this powerful before, blah, blah, blah." But I've decided now that she's not really into me, and, looking back, I'm really not so sure what I saw in her (I think it was just her butt and my mind tricked me into believing it was more than that). But I think God put her in my way to teach me not to get too hung up on one particular girl, and that there are plenty out there. This experience inspired more good things out of me too, like taking better care of myself and getting over bad events in my past.

This girl calling you her "favorite brother" is a very bad sign. She has already filed you under the dreaded "platonic pals" zone, and once here, there is virtually no escape. It is possible to get moved to "romance potential", but it takes a long time and it is a fairly rare event. You could probably meet and woo a completely new girl with far less effort. If you think you like her enough or women are in short supply where you live, go for it, but I think looking for someone new would save you much mental anguish and frustration. With "my girl", I'm trying to mentally normalize my feelings toward her, but it's tough, because we men are cursed by our mental flexibility. Even if we consciously decide things such as this, our door is always open unless the girl just really treats you like crap.

If you want to see more about me, check out my thread "Never Had Girlfriend". I hope what I have said will help you, and good luck brother!

Don't go for the women that are the "unreachables"?....These are the ones to stay away from...Look for the more unattractive lonely girls...The ones that with a little fixing up could look like a queen...Look beyond your first look and see within her something that is missing...Maybe another lonely person...Stop reaching for the stars...Stay in your own backyard..

Everyone is not beautiful...It is just life...Yet saying this, you may be looking in the wrong places...Look from the inside out, instead of the outside in....Some of us are in hiding and waiting for a man like you to bloom....

Caroline

Well, I SWEAR BY GOD, the fact that you never had sex or a girlfriend does not really take anything away from the nice person that you are. Even I had NEVER had a girlfriend (forget about having sex). I have made a promise to myself and God I will never have sex until I get married. I have also promised I will make ONLY one girlfriend and she will be my girlfriend for the rest of my life (my life partner and wife as well). I want to be sexually pure until marriage (By the way, I am NOT saying you should follow me or be like me, you have the ABSOLUTE FREEDOM to lead your life the way you want it to). If girls are rejecting you that is not a problem and if they are making fun of you that is SOLELY their problem (not yours). There is no problem if girls treat you only as a friend or "brother". If they are treating you like a brother and if they really mean it, it is good, they have respect for you and do not have impure thoughts about you. Even if they are using the term "brother" as a tool to ignore you, you ignore them as well. It is as simple as that. You must have heard the proverb “Tit for tat”. Yes, you do need to think more positively and build confidence but not necessarily to make girlfriends, rather to make your life easier and not to be hung up to a girl. Well, I have never had a girlfriend but I have the confidence to lead my life. Yes, while it is true I also feel very lonely and depressed at most times but it is much truer that my loneliness and depressed feeling are not due to not having a girlfriend or something like that. My problems are mostly due to the trouble that I am facing in my academic performance and ever lasting crisis in my family. You are probably a far better person than the girls that you are getting attracted to. Don't be bothered by whether they like you or ignore you. There are simply too many other things in life to be bothered about. Try getting yourself more involved in sports, academics, and your family. Always have a beautiful smile in your face and always thank GOD for whatever he has given you. Someday, you will meet with the real girl of your life who will truly and purely love you (beyond physical attraction) and fill your life with joy and happiness. Then you will wonder and say to yourself, “Well, I have got such a nice person as my life partner and I, once, used to get mad for those girls who changed their boyfriend every two months, ridiculous!”. Concentrate on and work with the things that you have, not the things that you don't have (especially the things that are not really necessary). You are still so young! The whole life is waiting for you. Move ahead with life and enjoy it.

your model chick..why would you want to be with someone like that...if she dated you...2 months later she will be finished with you, so its good to just be friends with her and stop trying to talk to her that way...you could make her feel uncomfortable for not feeling the same way.
i've been in battle with depression for 18 years and i know what you mean about being negative b/c you feel bad.
you will find the right one and sometimes it happens when your not thinking about it. so keep yourself busy by going out church, clubs, hanging out with friends. dont allow anyone to use you honey under any circumstance.

Trust me dude...if those girls are going to treat you like crap then they shouldn't be with you. You don't want to die, your just tired of rejection. Sooner or later you'll find the right one. Whether shes down the street or 50,000 miles away. There's plenty more fishes in the sea, so don't give up. God has a plan. Just pray.

I absolutely agree with deniseforte and AEM31021. Great replies!

To lonely boy,

The problem here isn't about the girls you know.

What we need to do here is to help you work on your issues and turn you from boy to MAN in as quickly as in a few minutes!

First of all, whether they are attached or not, lucky or unlucky, what your friends told you is 100%, absolutely TRUE.

You have to stay POSITIVE. Because it appears to them that you have been giving out negative signals. And girls hate that. Imagine yourself as a girl, how would you feel when you see a guy who's always giving out negative signals? Would you be attracted to him? Or would you be attracted to someone who is cheerful, upbeat and CONGRUENT with his feelings?

Now, you may be wondering what I mean by being CONGRUENT.

Have you ever seen plain Janes and simple Simons being at ease with themselves no matter how fat or ugly they may appear? And yet, they are attracting so many friends! Makes you wonder "Hell! How did they do it? I look better than them, I should be luckier!" doesn't it? Well, that's because they feel at ease with themselves, and the people around them can SENSE it. I'm sure that you'll agree with me because it's happening right now everyday - not so good looking guys getting romantically involved with pretty girls, not so good looking girls hitching up with better looking guys. That's because they are at ease with themselves and don't see themselves in negative light. They don't beat themselves up whenever things don't work out - which is part and parcel of life. True or true?

What you give out (as a signal) will always come back to you. Always remember that tip.

Secondly, build up your CONFIDENCE. TAKE ACTION. Go to a GYM. That's right, I strongly encourage you to workout 2 or 3 times a week if you haven't done it already. Live HARD, play strong! Taking up Martial Arts like Combat Tai Chi, Krav Maga or even MMA is a fantastic way to boost your confidence too - look them up on YouTube to find out more. Because when you tone your physique, your mind will naturally change too. And when your mind feels good, your body will feel good and vice versa. Oh extra bonus points, if you take the effort to groom yourself - get a new hairstyle, dress well, look good (THIS IS OPTIONAL because yes, looks aren't everything but if you could get MAJOR results by making a few MINOR changes, wouldn't it be fantastic? I mean hey, I'm sure you'd find it easy to invest less than 50 dollars to get some cool new tees, jeans, and a spunky new haircut, can't you?).

Better still, if you have the money, take up a self-improvement course or pick up a new skill that you feel you'd excel at. Join clubs and interest groups, be active, be ON THE MOVE! Don't become a stay-at-home dweeb - the male species were never created to hide in their caves. We are hunters, unless you're not a man. Now, here's a little jealously guarded secret: Girls love guys who are multi-talented and good at doing the things they love. If you feel you're lousy at something, take action to BE GOOD at it.

More IMPORTANTLY, be CONGRUENT. Align yourself with Life's higher purpose - What you want, what you think and what you do are one. Help more people, be sincere BUT don't be sincere just because you want to impress someone. You will NOT get what you want by being an actor. Be sincere because that's what life's higher purpose is all about - to make a positive difference in someone else's life or be the change the world needs.

As for the girl who treated you like a brother? Forgive her. Be happy for her if you sincerely love her. Let go. Move on. Greater success is waiting for you elsewhere. Like they say, "OUT WITH THE OLD, IN WITH THE NEW!"

Work on your self-improvement. Be the type of MAN that YOUR ideal girl wants. One who is learned, mentally strong, nice to others and positive!

Not some emo lonely boy!

You can do it.

How do I know?

Because I've walked down this exact same road before.

And remember this: You will never get the breakthrough results you want if you simply sit here and read blindly. I strongly urge you to wise up, get your feet up and start applying what you learnt in these few precious minutes

Give yourself 12 months (or even earlier) to become the perfect guy that your type of girl wants. You call the shots! And remember to make (and meet) more friends while you are at it. Because a great new product wouldn't get notice if it remains on the shelf unseen from the public.

The ball's in your hands now.

Question is, are you man enough to step up the next level?

Nah.. Take it from a guy who dated all the models...

Life isnt about dating models brother...

You will soon find out that looks fade.. And fast....

As life progresses, the pretty girls get older, get wrinkles and get old. They have children, become overweight, and generally dont care about their looks...

Point is this...

Find someone who has a "MODEL HEART"... Find a women who is beautiful from the inside... Not just the outside... The inside beauty is what will make you happy all of your short life.

To summarize.

Life is to short to be unhappy,

Everyone ages. Even model girls...

Most model girls let themselves go and age quicker

It is inner beauty that lasts a lifetime

Inner beauty will keep you happy.....

Cheers and have a wonderful life my friend!

I am 42 years old and suffer from loneliness and depression. I was verbally and emotionally abused by my older brother for the past 25 years. His wife now joins in and constantly makes fun of me. No one ever sided with me and the few times I fought back, I was yelled at. And yes, I'm 42!!! I have absolutely no self-confidence, and I hate being around people because I am always afraid someone is going to make fun of me. I've never been in a long term relationship, rather, I'm always the girl guys date while theyre looking for the girl they are going to marry. I've never had anyone in love with me. Not sure what being taken out on a nice date is all about. Dating to me has always been me ordering take-out food for whoever is coming over. I've never celebrated Valentine's Day. I take off that day from work every year because one year, i was the only woman in the office not to recieve flowers. By the end of the day, everyone was getting on the elevator to go home, and they were all carrying vases of roses. I will never forget the humiliation I felt, as I stood with all of them in the elevator, and I had no flowers. I've never recieved a birthday or Christmas gift from a boyfriend. I stay home alone constantly. I go to work, come home and go to bed. Most times, I go to the drive-in at McDonald's, order a lot of food and park in the back of the parking lot to eat it. I'm an emotional eater. I spend alot of time crying. My life will never, ever change. Loneliness and not having any self-confidence or self-respect are awful things.