Q: Hysterectomy decision
asked by:
brokenheart66
on September 14th, 2009
New User
I had a hysterectomy 2 months before my husband and I got married in July. The hysterectomy wasn't needed immediately but I did it anyway. Would have needed to be done eventually. My husband can't forgive me for it. He wanted the chance to have a baby, I didn't. We both have plenty of older kids. I'm 42. I had the essure procedure done over 5 yrs ago and also was diagnosised with a luteal Phase Defect for which I had to take clomid to get pregnant. I also had to take progesterone for the 1st trimester to stay pregnant with the first two. With the 3rd child I had, I had a racing heartbeat, 3 days of bed rest and she was still born 5 weeks early. During the vaginal hysterectomy the dr discovered quite a bit of endometriosis. Knowing my own history along with the Endometriosis that was found I keep trying to tell my husband that I wouldn't have been able to get pregnant, that it wouldn't have worked with all of the problems, the previous steralization surgery, and my age. Am I correct? Or would there actually been a chance? Am I losing my husband for my stupid mistake. He also says that my "smell" (that he liked) has changed and that I was "stretched out" during the surgery. Can anything be fixed???? HELP ME!! I'm desperate and my husband wants to leave me because of it.
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