I've been having sex or more like trying to have sex with my gf probably only once in a while (around once a week). But lately when I tried to penetrate her after some foreplay it seems very hard to get my penis in and I try a few times throughout the night. It feels like half the time she is too dry. But there's another problem everytime it also feels like I'm putting my penis through a tight plastic ring and it's hurting both me and her. I've been able to have a few times with lube or not stressing about the pain and keep going which seemed to work once or twice for both me and her. But I can't just go at it all the time everytime and ignore the pain for both her (and me as well from either the friction or that tight ring feel.. like I''ve just broken through the hymen.. not that I know as it didn't seem like she was a virgin when I first had sex with her). When I comes to penetrating now I have little or no confidence at all. I just want to know what would the likely causes be. She is small in size and is only 19. Don't know if that is relavent. Any help would be much appreciated!
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
Dyspareunia, or pain during intercourse can be caused by either something inside the vagina or outside in the pelvic organs. Inside the vagina some common causes are:
(1) Vaginismus or painful spasm of the vaginal muscles.
(2) Female Sexual Arousal Deficit. FSAD
(3) Vaginitis or infection.
(4) Perineal tear.
Outside the vagina some common causes are:
(2) Ovarian Cyst.
(3) Uterine fibroids.
(4) Diverticular disease.
(5) Pelvic Inflammatory Diseaseâ
All of these conditions need appropriate investigation. In a word, your girlfriend need to see a doctor.Vaginismus is the most likely cause of her problem but either way this needs to be taken seriously.
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