My wife claims to be a virgin but yet on our wedding night I did not see any loss of blood which I was told should usually occur if her hymen has not broken.
Can her hymen be broken in any other way aside from penile penetration?
Such as if she was penetrated with a finger as I have done that to her before hand?
Or through vigorous exercise? Eg volleyball etc
And if her hymen did break, would she not have known about it? Would the blood loss be any more than say when she gets her period and would there have been considerable pain that she would have been aware of it being broken?
As mentioned above her vagina was very tight such that I could only stick 1 finger in fully whilst 2 fingers (widthwise) seemed to cause her pain.
Does this necessarily meant that she must be a virgin?
I know that she has had a previous relationship over a year ago which she claims was non- sexual. However my question is could it be possible that her vagina was larger then and got tighter now as she has not had penetrative penile sex for over a year. And maybe also because her previous boyfriend could have had a much smaller & thinner penis than mine? ( Note my penis is above average broad and moderately long)
Lastly I might add that although I penetrated her I did not go very deep and only did one or two/three thrusts as she was sreaming in pain. Would this be enough to break the hymen or could it be possible than her hymen is still intact until I penetrate her more fully and forcefully?
If I do this it is going to cause her a lot of pain so is there anything I can do to minimise her pain or is this just the way it is and she will just have to grind and bear it given its her first time?
|Frankly, aside from my initial comment about how you seemed uneducated about sex, I don't think any of what I said was chauvenistic.
I'm really sorry if it came off to you that way.
Really, the only reason I was stressing your involvement is because I'm talking to you, not your wife. Of course I think she should also be more educated about her sexuality, of course this is not only your fault. And I am totally 100% for women taking charge of their sexuality and knowing more about their own bodies.
I made the assumption that you were not educated about female sexuality simply because many people on here aren't, and because you made the mistake of assuming her hymen was related to her virginity and that sex should be painful for women, at least the first time. this isn't true, and that's what I was trying to tell you.
And really, that's all I needed to know is exactly what you told me- if you spent time on foreplay, she was well lubricated, and all that, then the painful sex could be indicative of a medical condition and she should probably be seen by a well-qualified gyno.