My husband who I have been with for 8 years has schizophreia. I am 48 and he is 32. When I first met him he was a wonderful and gentle man and except for a regression about once a year we were very happily married. I could cope with the oddness of some of his behaviours and he was a far better father to my children than their real father.

At the beginning of 2008 his medicaton was changed. The first medication was terrible and was quickly changed. The next medication solian seemed to be working well, but he changed from this gentle human being to someone a lot "harder". He was a lot less considerate, more critical and more self centred. The trouble was he did not believe this and all the doctors would just put it down to marriage problems.
He changed back to his original medication recently only a much lower dose. At first it was a nightmare, but as his dose was increased things seemed to get better.
How wrong I was. When he is unwell he develops a gambling addiction and he has lost a lot of money, even though he does not have access to my account. Also, his paranoia is always directed at me and occassionally my eldest son. However, on the outside he can seem perfectly normal.

At present he has left me and our children, believing I am to blame and I am trying to control him. He is still on a low dose of medication and I believe he only needs a small increase, but there is no way he would listen to me, and he will not see his regular doctor who knows the situation because he doesn't trust him, but to any other doctor he would seem to be perfectly normal.

I don't know what to do from here. Should I give up? The stress put me in hospital last week. It doesn't help that his parents both hate me because of the age diference and are encourageing him to stay away. I know he loves me and I love him, but I have no idea what to do. Please help