Last night me and my husband had a fight. I wanted to cut my already short hair (my avi shows how short it was.) shorter. He said that only crazy women cut their hair that short and that just shows i'm insane..I told him I like short hair cause its easier for me to manage. So I cut it in what he called a manly hair style. all I did was put the top half in a pony tail and cut the sides close to the scalp. He then proceeded to call me a man, and that I looked butch etc.
2 weeks ago I quit shaving my armpits and legs, a personal choice really. I got sick and tired of taking so much time in the shower and for what? I hated doing it, i often got ingrown hairs and razor burn. So i just stopped.
He threw that in my face to, saying women HAVE to do those things.
He went on to say harsh things to me about how I wasnt enough of a women, I may dress it but I dont act it at all etc. It hurt alot. and triggered one of my mood swings. I took his debit card and went to the store to get a pack of smokes...and in doing so caused us to overdraw the bank account meaning we wont have the money to cover our cable/net and phone bill this month..I got home and he packed my suitcase said he was sick of me and wanted me gone and if I didnt leave he would throw me out by what little hair I had left. So I called the cops. By the time they got there we were both on the front walk calmly talking. and he explained to my husband he cant throw me out and it seemed we could handle things.
I know we're screwed up please dont tell me that, i know i need help etc.
But is it right of him to tell me i'm not a women because I dont do what society says I have to? I have have enough problems with my own thoughts on my appearence i dont need him adding to my self hate.
