Hi, I'm 23 years old, recently married to a man who says he loves me deeply - and he knows about my ED, I told him like 2 yars ago and he is the only one who knows.

I've had my ED (bulimia with binge/fasting) for almost 5 years now and it is getting worse, it basically became a living torture, present every minute of the day. I do extreme binging and fasting (with plenty of horrible effects, extreme weight fluctuations, fatique, depression, hair loss) and my husband simply DOES NOT CARE. Obviously, I got 2 problems: my ED (with a desire to heal!) and why doesn't he care/help? Because the fact that he knows and does nothing feels way worse than being competely alone in this.

I never eat with him - and he doesn't even ask me to join him. He knows what I am feeling, I am vividly explaining everything, I am trying to make him see that my life is a living torture - he feels bad for some minutes, then never asks again.

He never asked me to go to a doctor, never thought about a therapist, medication, anything! Months after I told him about my bulimia, he was clueless - he didn't even try to get information on what my bulimia means and how he can help.

Even more, when we go out, he always suggests fast food places because he likes them, even though I tell him I want to eat healthy to get better.

Is this normal? Is this ok? Sometimes I feel like if I lost dramatic amounts of weight till the point of being extremeley underweight, maybe then he'd notice and do something, anything! So basically, him knowing but not helping me is definitely making my ED even worse.

Please give me your thoughts - why is he so passive? I simply do not understand how he lets me fall apart like this and he just stands by.

Thank you.