Hubby is sooo stubborn!

My husband is so stubborn. He can be very nice also. He came home and was happy, I had dinner ready for him (as usual) and he thanks me for it. The he turns into Dr. Jekkyl and Mr. Hide. We had an argument over the dishwasher of all things. It wasn't any of our faults, but he gets so dramatic. Did I mention he is stubborn? The point is, he won't listen to my side of the argument. He talks at me, instead of to me. He swears in every sentence. He then goes on about how I do or don't do that. He doesn't like it when I am on my laptop. He's watching a movie I don't care for. Am I suppose to sit there and watch it with him for pete's sake? Do I need go ask permission to be on my laptop? I was beside him on my laptop. He hates when I do that because he feels I am ignoring him. He asked me if he could watch a movie. I said ok and went on m laptop. We did talk during the movie.
The other things he is stubborn about are that he won't go to a doctor or dentist. He hasn't seen one in like 3 years. He needs to. He is 60 years old.
He also goes to this pub after work ever day to play pool. I don't mind it as much, but he needs to spend a little more time with me on the weekends doing something other than go to play pool while I sit there and watch. I play sometimes. I would like to go see a movie once in awhile, and it is so hard to get him to do it. Once he goes, he enjoys the movie. He isn't the spur to the moment type. He needs to mentally have it ready in his head to do something.
I can understand being comfortable in your routine, knowing what to expect, but it is getting boring! I do go out with my friends, and if he is home before me, he pouts when he sees me come in. I try to get him involved with others. Sometimes he will, but most times he wont. I am in my late 40's, and try to keep him young, but I can't do it all by myself, I need his cooperation. If I negotiate with him he makes it kinda limiting. What can I try? What can I do? I do love him, I just need to get him to be more flexible.