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Q: How would you react?

asked by: ebarnhard33 on March 10th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

So, my husband decided to bring home an 8-week-old Australian Shepherd mix on Saturday - without talking to me about it first. He has been wanting to get a dog for a long time now, but I always told him no, that we had to wait until we got our own house with a yard. We live with his mother currently... the main floor is about 900 sq ft.... 3 adults, one baby, 3 dogs and 2 cats is a BIT MUCH in my opinion. I have such mixed emotions about the entire situation. The puppy woke Kaylee up a couple times last night because he would not stop crying when we gated him up in the kitchen. I told Daren that this dog is 100% his responsibility because a) I didn't want a dog in the first place and b) I can't take care of Kaylee AND a new puppy at the same time. The living situation was cramped enough before he brought this puppy home. Now I am even more stressed about it. Of course his mother can never say no to him either. She was in on the whole thing as well, even after she flat out told me that she wouldn't allow him to bring another dog in the house. I just feel betrayed that they went behind my back to do this.

Oh, and ANOTHER thing that made me mad (sorry, this is turning into a major vent). My MIL's grill doesn't work anymore, and Daren's got stolen from our old apartment. So last night Daren asks if he can use my debit card to go buy a $150 grill. I said no. So then his mom says (with major attitude, mind you) "Well I guess we're out a grill then, because mine is broken and his got stolen." Like it's MY responsibility to get a new grill because HERS is broken?!?! I don't really get along with her to begin with but this just added fuel to the fire. I just replied "I don't have $150 to be spending on a grill." I just feel like it's 2 against 1 sometimes because she always takes his side.

Sorry this was so long but I just needed to vent Sad

Replies(6)

AyaMiyaki

replied on March 10th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

That's really annoying! And that's definitely a lot of animals to have around a baby. I would definitely have said something to him about how your opinion obviously means nothing to him if he's just going to go out and do what he wants to do after "discussing" it with you.

And what does his mother's grill have to do with you? It's HER grill - why isn't SHE replacing it?

Ugh. It sounds like a tough situation. I'm sorry, hon. Sad

krystineM

replied on March 10th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

wow sorry about all this that has happened to you,
you have every right to be p---ed off right now, i would feel the exact same way if i were in your situation.
My bf/fiance wants a dog, he used to have a husky/wolf mix but gave him away 2 years ago and he wants to get a new dog, but with our baby coming we've at least come to an agreement that we would wait for a year or so to go by and then get a dog.
I think you should sit down with your husband and diccuss how your feeling, a new mother should not feel like its always a battle between her spouse and Mother in Law, i would think his mother would understand your point and discourage him from bringing an animal into the house when there are already 3 or 2 dogs there 2 cats and a baby. As for the grill, i would say the same thing, and you should make it clear that you have another priority to make than getting a grill, a baby to take care of and they'll have to wait or buy a table grill or hey, use the oven! works just as well as a grill.
sorry you had to go through that again, it is not fair at all, but i really thnk you should discuss this with your husband and maybe he would understand more.

krystine

Mabel

replied on March 10th, 2008

Moderator

Did your husband research this particular kind of dog? This is an incredibly high maintenance dog that requires a lot of attention. I hope you can convince him this wasn't such a great idea.

krystineM

replied on March 10th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

maybe you should ask if he would think if leting a friend watch the dog for a while till things settle down or you move into your house cuz it is a big responsibility he coudl still see the dog but not make it so hecktic on your part.

ebarnhard33

replied on March 10th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

Thanks for all of your replies!

He knows how I feel about it, but he honestly won't do anything about it. I swear, I am NOT taking care of this dog.

Ingi, he researched the breed AFTER he brought the dog home. Rolling Eyes

Yes, they are extremely high maintenance. We gave away a Husky a few years ago because she kept digging holes and jumping the fence. They seem to be very similar breeds by what I've read.

I just want to take my own personal mini-vacation. Lay out on the beach with a drink in my hand and not worry about anything!!!

Emma2

replied on March 11th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

That was incredibly selfish of him. 3 dog already in the house! I like animals but in "my opinion" none belong in a house...especially near babies.

Oh and i would super ticked because this is a partnership not Boss and employee ...Very disrespectfull of your thoughts.

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