i've only ever had one with my past sexual partners and i've had quite a few with my partner now. i'm seventeen. but i'm not even sure when i'm having an orgasm? is that not right? is there something wrong with me? :/. he feels like crap because he thinks he can't give me one even though he already has but cos i don't know when i'm having one he thinks it's his fault? :/ . when we have oral sex and he goes fast on my clit i go sensitive but like i can't have him doing it any longer as it's uncomfortable, but when he goes slowly and softly i push against him as i reaaally want it! but i still feel awful because he doesn't think he can make me cum answers will be appretiated please!
The time to figure out how to orgasm and how it feels is when you are masturbating. He does'nt have a vagina and clitoris, so he cannot know how to make you orgasm unless you can tell him.
You can even show him how you orgasm, or take his hand and use it to make you orgasm. That will be very sensual for him and he will learn about your body and what you like.
It is perfectly fine to ask him to go softer, slower, faster, harder, somewhere else or to ask him to continue what he is doing when it feels good. Talk to him and tell him what you want and like (without being bossy or demanding). Just stop him when he does it too hard. Lift his head with your hands, close your legs or tell him to stop doing it that way.
A woman's clitoris can get very sensitive. Continuued stimulation after that is very uncomfortable. Tell him about it and ask him to lick and suck your inner lips, or around your vaginalentrance when that happens, or to finger you or play with your breasts. When that happens, you are either close to orgasm and it will nt take mush to get you there, or he was to rough with your clitoris and you will have difficulty to get to an orgasm.