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My boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty regularly for about six months. We moved into an apartment together and started having sex a little more than usual. One night we found out I'm a squirter. Since then it happens every time. Why did it start all of a sudden? Is it because of the increase in frequency of sex? Why am I doing it all the time? And most importantly, CAN I STOP?!
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replied November 13th, 2008
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Female orgasm is still being researched, athlough doctors believe that liquid ejaculate originates in the Skene's glands. Is this causing you embarrassment?

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replied November 13th, 2008
no, not embarrassment. i just don't like the feeling of being wet... it's a huge turn off and really kills the enjoyment of the act for me after it happens
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replied November 13th, 2008
Extremely eHealthy
Try to change positions and not stimulate the urethral glands. This should help minimize the chances of squirting.
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replied November 13th, 2008
it's happened once without even any penetration though.
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replied November 13th, 2008
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Some women are like this...If he stimulates you sexually, you react this way...It is an erotic feeling that you get...I know...I do it all the time...

When you go to bed to have sex prepare your bed...Put a couple of towels down...I have a waterproof mattress pad plus still put towels down...BUT, I love it...The warm feeling of the ejaculate coming out of me is heavenly...It is non-staining and odorless...Very sweet and a man loves the taste of it.....Accept it....You have a very active and swollen G-spot that is reacting to your man and unless you have some glands cut out, which I would not suggest, you will be wet.....

Take care,
CA
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replied February 2nd, 2012
Too much liquid?
Java Missus,

It worries me that you are using both a waterproof mattress pad AND towels. Are you sure you aren't just urinating everywhere? It sounds like there is too much liquid for it to be your average squirting orgasm.

Kind Regards,
Jen Itals
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replied October 2nd, 2012
My husband and I use 2 to 4 towels doubled over and over. When he gets me going I have to remind to stop ever so often to let me breathe. He loves to watch me go. There is no peeing involved at all. I to also have a waterproof mattress pad. We enjoy pleasing each other. He has now decided that vaginal pleasure is not good enough and insisted we start oral. This did happen and oh boy he found the clitoral spot and I squirted even then. He can give me pleasure any time we are together.
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replied October 14th, 2012
My girlfriend squirts multiple times every time we have sex. At first I thought she P eed on me, but there was no stain and it.smelled sweet, it absolutely turned me on, and I realized she was a squirter. I had only seen this in porn. She felt extremely embarrassed, ran into the bathroom in tears. She said it only.happened to her once before, and it happened to her again. I calmed her down, and told her she was a squirter, and to be honest, I wanted her to.do it again. we were at it again again, lo and behold, she did it again, told me to stop she couldn't control it.

Apparently, it happens during vigorous intercourse, gspot stimulation, and clitoral stimulation, shes a heavy squirter, and it does not smell...it's wonderful...it's messy...erotic, and just an unbelievable experience. she gets so overwhelmed by the 10th time, she basically passes out and hasn't much energy the next morning. I love it. don't know about you guys.
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replied October 14th, 2012
My girlfriend squirts multiple times every time we have sex. At first I thought she P eed on me, but there was no stain and it.smelled sweet, it absolutely turned me on, and I realized she was a squirter. I had only seen this in porn. She felt extremely embarrassed, ran into the bathroom in tears. She said it only.happened to her once before, and it happened to her again. I calmed her down, and told her she was a squirter, and to be honest, I wanted her to.do it again. we were at it again again, lo and behold, she did it again, told me to stop she couldn't control it.

Apparently, it happens during vigorous intercourse, gspot stimulation, and clitoral stimulation, shes a heavy squirter, and it does not smell...it's wonderful...it's messy...erotic, and just an unbelievable experience. she gets so overwhelmed by the 10th time, she basically passes out and hasn't much energy the next morning. I love it. don't know about you guys.
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replied January 12th, 2009
I doubt you can stop... but that's not really a bad thing.
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replied January 12th, 2009
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how come you would wanna stop it's amazing feeling Smile love it when i do it although i don't do it all the time, it tends to be when my bf stays in one position constantly and at the same pace Smile Jenny
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replied February 19th, 2009
Squirting
It is fantastic each and every time you do it. Do not be ashamed for being so beautiful.... Although my girl doesn't squirt every time we have sex she always has an orgasm. The squirt is just an added bonus and surprise every couple of times we make love. When she does, I can't help myself but to give her oral as it is so sweet and such a turn on... (For both of us). Towels help but just enjoy it and don't worry.
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replied October 2nd, 2012
glad someone else agrees. Have fun with it. letting yourself go and not worrying about everything else helps. We are sexual creatures that need satisfaction. Don't hold back your needs but also don't go overboard.
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replied February 22nd, 2009
I myself am a frequent squirter. everytime i have sex from the first time i had it to now, unlike you guys different positions arent really an option to stop it because i am a lesbian so not to many are available but my girlfriend and i have learned to deal with it, except for the fact when we want to have sex outside the bedroom i cant be touched. But it really should be seen as a beautiful thing, life is to short to worry about simple things like this.
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replied February 22nd, 2009
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This topic is awesome!
I know you want to change this. I say you shouldn't worry about it! Trying to have control of your body's reaction would sap all the fun out of sex.
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replied February 23rd, 2009
How to stop sqirting
I have been able to teach every woman I have been with to squirt in the last 5 years, when I was younger I had a few girls, say 1 in 5 who could, and I didnt know what it was back then, they just squirted, I have just split with a lady who absolutely gushed and I was in love with her, this was the very best, it turned me on and has spoilt me for anyone else, I dont know what to do,but she changed from an angle to the most venomious hateful person I have ever met, I am so sad as I wont find this combination ever again, I took her for granted and didnt respect or give enough to the realationship, so if you find love and a gusher, cherish it, look after it and be happy.
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replied March 27th, 2009
I'm a squirter and it happens with clitoral stimulation and vaginal stimulation. My boyfriend absolutely LOVES this, but because of it, refuses to give me oral sex. He tried it once and said he was afraid because I was a squirter. What should I do?
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replied May 1st, 2009
the skene glands?? that's a new one
I tend to disagree with most of these comments on the basis that I am with a woman for whom this is so excessive I feel like I am going to drown. The idea that this liquid is some mystery liquid coming from a gland is near laughable as you will quickly work out with a very heavy squirter that it is urine and it is being caused by lack of bladder control during ejaculation. I am so sick of it now that we are at the point of breaking up. At first it was oh so erotic and in small doses still would be, however after a while my house started to smell of stale urine and secretions and I spent more time cleaning and washing and worrying about which carpet / mattress / couch / whatever was going to be ruined next. Sure there are those of you who will say I should feel lucky but trust me I am so over it I long for the dry or at least drier alternative. I feel like a nurse bringing towels to a pregnant woman lol and think I should be wearing some 'flood control' t-shirt. It is no longer about sex and enjoyment but rather about minimising damage to my house. I am not really an overly clean freak either here but we are talking about 2 litres of the stuff everywhere per week and I mean a combined total of literally two litres. So anyway, to get to the point lol, through these strands there are plenty of immature statements from guys fantasising, who think they would readily swap but I am talking about it happening day in day out in a long term situation and it is a problem. If anyone out there has some real input on the use of medications or other techniques I would be most interested in hearing them as opposed to redundant statements that suggest one should 'learn to enjoy it.' Please let me know if you have any suggestions and are prepared to accept that the matter is serious enough to end a relationship as opposed to it being some fantastic experience.
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replied January 10th, 2012
I cant agree with this whole post, firstly, it is not in all caseS urine that is coming out in a squirt.
But I know what you mean with the soaking the house thing.
I am a woman who squirts and as much as it was good at first, I cant control it, and now it's getting me down. My partner however loves it. But Im sure he will get bored of putting towels down every time we have sex.
It is a turn off.
I think if I was a man I'd probably get bored and end a relationship, but unfortunately I'm stuck with it.
I too would appreciate real input on the use of medications or other techniques...
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replied June 3rd, 2012
This is getting to be a pretty old thread, but I figured I'd reply anyway. . .

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years and she has been a squirter the entire time. For a while, yes, towels were the go to item of choice, and often she would soak through them and feel embarrassed.

This is an unusual solution, but it has worked for us. We buy water-proof house training pads for puppies and lie them on the mattress, or couch, or what have you. They do a fantastic job keeping the mess contained. That's not to say that they're fool proof, but there's much less embarrassment involved for her, so we can enjoy ourselves a bit more without much concern.
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replied July 21st, 2012
Didn't think about the puppy pads! We've been using crib pads but they don't last very long plus they have to be washed all the time. Like the disposability of the puppy pads!
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replied October 11th, 2012
Maybe with her it is urine? Not the ejaculate these people are talking about?
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replied May 12th, 2014
I totally agree with you. At first I never knew what happened when I gushed. Men found It very erotic and for a while it was novel and the feeling was like beyond orgasm. but now, Its embarrassing, I am in a new relationship and hopefully long term one. we haven't had sex yet. but I have ruined beds, mattresses, quilts, sofas, cushions, rugs, and used protectors, towels and like you its litres and litres. but very intereting you say that its to do with bladder weakness as I am actually under the hospital and taking tablets to help my bladder urgency and have bladder muscle weakness, so sounds like there is a connection. and sometimes it does actually smell! I want to stop gushing too, its very inconvenient, messy, etc. some times ive changed the whole bed twice in a night and bathed in between cos there is so much.. I hope I stop too... only been doing it 2 yrs I never used to. first was with fingers, then oral and now I can with sex..its never ending!
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replied May 2nd, 2009
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Go to a doctor if you believe it has something to do with bladder control.
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replied September 1st, 2009
The Straight Dope
Agreed, if you research this, it is the skene's glands:

If you use the washroom before hand and completely empty your bladder, and you have this squirting orgasm, this may finally convince you that it's not urine. But if you are urinating during intimate activities, it may be because he is stimulating the area that will make you urinate (this is just near the opening at the top side of the vagina, about 1/4 centimeter in: be careful as stimulating this area regularly "the urethera" can cause bladder infections and some soreness during normal urination).
From what I've read, a true g-spot orgasm which results in squirting is because of g-spot stimulation when you're quite turned on:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejacul ation

If it smells like urine and he's not stimulating the top part right at the opening, then you may want to visit a Gynecologist or a Urologist (probably going to need a referral from your MD).

The Skene's gland liquid is exactly as others have described it here, it's colorless, odorless, and quite yummy Wink

I also want to mention, for those of you who like Ruffles plain ridges chips, the g-spot will feel somewhat like that when it is engorged (rough explaination I know, but the closest thing I could think of that is familiar to many people).
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replied September 26th, 2009
Squirting
you guys suck hahahah ok first off you got a girl who cares. i dont know what a squirter is like other than thoughts of it. i do know every man would like to experience a squirter and everyone man has different opinions. the ones who think oral is gross most likely have issues with squirters or sex in general idk. mature up you got a girl ok? from what i hear its odorless. so it stains? your cum stains too. think of it this way. you talk about squirting ruining your relationship. well then she leaves and you're now with no one. you dont know what you have until you lost it. anyway again its odorless from what i hear. if your having problems with her squirting then break up with her or she will. she needs someone to appreciate her without trying to change her.
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replied September 28th, 2009
Excessive orgasms and Squirting
My girlfriend is a heavy squirter. I dont mind but it is affecting how she feels when we have sex,she has many orgasms during sex and is getting fed up of having to stop every few minutes to the point were she has told me to find someone else because it is becoming a joke. Is there any way i could reduce the amount of times she orgasms. Ive tried diffrent positions and there is one which isnt as bad but now she is scared i may get bored of her ive assured her that will never happen. Seeing her orgasm and squirt is a great turn on for me, but i just want her to enjoy having sex more than trying to hold back its a difficult problem
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replied September 28th, 2009
I might sound like a sex newbie, even though I have had a lot of it, but in general, do you girls have orgasms without squirting or is squirting just a different type of orgasm.
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replied April 10th, 2012
Yes, girls can orgasm without squirting. Not all girls are squirters as well. Girls don't have to squirt every time to have an orgasm either.
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replied October 25th, 2009
Need Help!
After 23 years of marriage, I just squirted for my first time, which brought my husband to tears, we had been wanting this for so long. Now in a general love making session I will squirt at least 10 plus times, and he doesn't even have to be touching me. My problem is I am also squirting driving down the road, shopping, and low and behold even at Wal-Mart. Can any one tell me how to control the none session ones. It is getting to be a bit out of control and enconvient. Please help! aras65
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