Relax and take it slow, since it will be your first time make is special. One thing you can do if you want to last longer, masturbate hours before you have sex, that usually when you do have sex you wont ejaculate so fast. Dont worry so much on satisfying her or it will stress you out. Just take is slow , enjoy your first time, and most of all have fun!!! You will learn as you go!

Good Luck


~katie~

thankyou for your encouragement....i think ill try to go for alot of oral sex on her...so that i make her ejaculate first...or atlest make her really wet and almost there....i hope she likes that! do women generally like alot of oral the first time? it will be her first time too

dear katie,

i have hypospadias and small tool just13 cm. i am virgin. for the past 4 months i use sex toy.one like vagina and when i use it i didnt last more than 5 minutes. help me out how to concentrate.

kindly tell me do penis size matters for girls ,my fiancee is virgin and i discuss about my size.she is perfectly ok with my size as i exposed her twice in cam.

kindly also tell me what is the average intercourse time

just so that you know. if you dont sleep after cumming and just keep going the second and third time you cum will take longer than the first. good luck and... hehe... "get her done"

also dont do alot of oral sex on your first time. your getting married, use the missionary posistion. its special and you will have your entire lives to do all the other stuff. while on your honeymoon you can do the more erotic things

i am very proud of you that your doing it the right way.

my b/f is a four star lover, when im with him i feel like im in heaven. he is that geeky guy that read books, talk to a lot of people, even lesbians about love making.
he's not that big, but he satisfy me. he doesnt last long, but he knows of sexual techniques that prolongs the sex.
and this praise comes with experience.
no on that i ever slept with can match his love making.
and to give you tip swould be personal so i am going to private message you.
and good luck

thankyou for the tip ...ill use all ur advice !

I realize this is likely a conscious decision you made but it is incredibly reckless of you to wait until after marriage before having sex. This is a proven road to marital problems in bed and very likely the cause of your insecurity about being able to pleasure your finance. Case in point, if you were having sex with this woman you would have her help in solving this problem before you entered a lifelong commitment with her.

You shouldn't worry about a fast finish when masturbating. You are uniquely skilled at pleasuring yourself. Most men can bring themselves to orgasm within a few minutes pretty reliably. Stimulation will be less intense with a partner, you will last longer.

If you find out that you have said vows with a woman and you're not able to pleasure her like she would like, it is as simple as solving any relationship problem. Talk with her and work with her to find a solution. Perhaps you'll have to adjust how you engage in sex or adjust the amount of foreplay you use. However you shouldn't worry about a problem until you actually have one.

wolf, some people save themselves for marriage because of religious reason. and that should be admirable and respected.

i wish i saved myself, because i made many mistakes in my 20's.
statics may show that a person who has sex early is more likely to get STD's vs. someone who saves themselves. so the sword goes both ways.

Why bring up a dubious statistic to scare a young man who's already facing sexual anxiety? This man is engaged to be married. If his marriage is successful it doesn't matter if he's 10 or 70 when he fist has sex his chances of contacting a venereal disease are exactly the same. Would you like to point out that if he decides not to drive until 25 his chance of being in a traffic accident cut in half? or that if he doesn't work before the age of 35 he's much less likely to be terminated by an employer? Really anything you can do to avoid having to participate in life during the period of time where inexperience puts you at risk would help keep you safe, unless of course you needed to participate in life to make sound choices about it. Did it occur to you that if his marriage becomes 200% more likely to fail because of abstaining from pre-marital sex and he has more than one partner then his chances of contracting a venereal disease also double? Shame on you ma'am.

23 year old you have enough on your plate. You've made your decision. Your finance has also decided to abstain. This is what you both want. Be prepared and educated about possible problems. Keep communication with your wife open and honest about sex, love and support her and abstinence won't be a factor in the success of your marriage

u have a condition called PE or premature ejaculation. try jacking off before u have sex and it will take longer for u to ejaculate the second time. also if u are in love then dont worry about it u can work through it. also if u think about other subjects then it will take longer gl

i m not trying to scare anyone! if you read what i wrote i basically told him that i am proud of him for saving himself, and my opinions are positive of what he is trying to do.