How can I reduce the pain of my Lady while first time sexual intercourse? She can not tolerate even half inch. I tried it twice after 30-40 mins foreplay and also given an oral so that her natural lubricant can comes out. But, that was not helpful too. Please guide. A reply from woman/ lady is expected who has experienced this. Can pure Aloe Vera be used while having it for the first time?
I wouldn't use anything for lubricant except spit, or actual lube. Using other stuff thats not made for sexual intercourse could cause bad stuff to happen for your lady. As for the pain, if its her first time, don't be worried about it. She just has to get used to it. Just use lube, or spit. Nothing else.
LOTS of lube. I mean, lots and lots and lots and lots. I've found that plain old water-based KY jelly is the best way to go. Your girl sounds a lot like I was when I lost my virginity, so I can tell you firsthand that it is EXTREMELY painful and that being gentle, going very slow, and good communication is key.
What my now fiance did was finger me a lot beforehand (this helps much more than oral) - this will help stretch her out a bit which should make it easier. Try to increase the number of fingers once she becomes comfortable, if you're not doing that already. Odds are the pain is from a stubborn hymen (though if you're big that doesn't help haha), so unfortunately when it comes to actual intercourse she's going to have to bite the bullet at least a little. Just go slow - go in a little bit at a time, just as much as she can take, and then stop and stay there when she tells you to so she can get used to the feeling. What my body did was react to the pain and send out tons of pain-killing hormones that made me go totally numb and gave me a sort of natural high so that it didn't hurt anymore. If/when she reaches that point, you should be able to go in a bit more and break the hymen.
Odds are that it's going to hurt no matter what, and it will probably take multiple times before you guys can really have sex, but if you just go a little bit at a time and are very gentle, then she'll be fine. Always stop immediately if she says to, or if she's had too much pain, ask her how she's doing every now and then, etc etc. Having her sit on an ice pack afterward also helps, and if you only wait a few days between sex, then it should become a lot easier faster than if there's a big gap in time between intercourse.