my wife is bipolar, i love her with all my heart. and sometimes its so hard to deal with the mood swings. i need some help, some different ways to not let the hurtful things that come out during these episodes affect me the way that they do. sometimes when she goes from happy to pissed off in the blink of a eye i feel like i have done something wrong. like im the problem. like i should have said something different or not said something to have sparked the switch up. im tired of walking on water. i need some advice on how to not let the mean things hurt my feelings and make me sad. bc i have found that when im sad she gets more upset. its like fueling the fire with fire. i just want the happy us back.
is it the meds?
is it me?
what can i do or say to make things easiear on the both of us?
hi again chels
been thinking about your post. what seems to help me is if I distance myself a bit from my husband's moods. I don't initiate conversation so he isn't negative. After I left him a lone for a few days he sees quite happy to chat and have a relationship.He seem to miss the intereaction(go figure) By now of course I'm used to living with someone who doesn't want to interact so balancing it out is tricky. It\s up to me to set boundaries though so my bp husband will know (he's brilliant)when he really had better pay attention.For the past 4 days we've had peace when he ts home instead of him snarling and me feeling bad. I've een reading a lot of posts on the forum. I'm so thnakful to have found it. I've seen a psychiatrist twice now for my depression. it's so hard living with someone with BP. We have to look after ourselves which is why my GP sent me to the shrink when i asked for someone to talk after the last time my husband screamed at me and scared the daylights out of me. he had never done that before.hope this helps. My last post wasn't much help.
I have been living with my on and off boyfr. bipolar, for 5 months now, due to work from home situation we see each other everyday,a lot, he threatens me to never want to see me again at times, and last night he said so definately. A day earlier he told me he had missed me when he was just 4 hours away from home, and thanked me so much about me helping him a lot the night before when he was very depressed. Now he accuses me of stalking him etc. I havent spoken to him today, but I am very nervous and scared to really loose him and dont know what to do right now... he needs space, me too, but he reacts so extreem and allways blames me, its hurting so much, but it is on the other hand the closest and best relationship I have had, Please advice, I dont know whether to leave the house (which maybe will make things more extreme) or just try ignore him while staying in the same house, my workp`lace is there, last night he moved to other bedroom, and today I couldnt get back into the house when I was out and he inside. I want to sooth this urgent situation. I am scared of his radical decisions and he says it for a few hours, but then it is not so, it last a night gets worse, continues next day etc.. What do I do? if I leave I am afraid that he will stick to his decision and feel the confirmation about that he has gone to far, as I said that I couldnt handle the stress very well, when he doesnt talk to me normally for several days... please help... I dont want to loose him... thank you
Hello, I'm currently dating someone that has Bipolar Depression. The interactions we've had I didn't notice anything about him that would show he is bipolar or depressed but he told me he was. We live 1 hour away from each other and can only really see each other on weekends, usually throughout the week I will text or call him and get no response for hours. I'm not sure why this is. When he does respond it's like he just got the text or phone call minutes before. I know he's usually busy with work or his kids but I notice he will sometimes ignore someone if he becomes frustrated or upset. He's mentioned a few times that he doesn't think anyone understands what it's like to be bipolar which is true but I just want to know how I can be more supportive of him and let him know that I am there for him. I will be moving closer to him really soon and I want to be more available to him. I just don't know how.