Hi guys, my boyfriend has asked me a few times to try anal sex. But even the slightest object like his finger makes me feel like i gotta take a dump which is weird. how do you guys counter that feeling?
also, when you have anal sex, does the feces get stuck onto the condom or smth? i have a phobia of that.
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Anal sex is not considered normal in few traditions (ofcourse, God could have created only one passage in such cases for humans too instead of two). But people do try it for having âenhancedâ experience. It is associated with increased risk of infections (especially to the guy, and to some extent to you too if after anal intercourse, vaginal intercourse is attempted).
The pain and discomfort can be counteracted by using adequate lubrication in form of gel and/or vaginal secretions at height of pleasure. Usually faeces do not come onto the penis/condom if you are having normal stools (and not loose stools). Make sure that you use condoms when you have anal intercourse, and remember to change the condom before going on with vaginal intercourse (if having it after anal).
Shame on you, Dr. Paul. How dare you as a medical professional lecture the person asking the question about what is "considered normal" and then opine as to what God "could have" done. It is that sort of blatant arrogance that causes people not to seek MEDICAL advice and to put their health in jeopardy because they are ignorant of the possible consequences. The professional thing to have done would have been to warn her about the numerous health hazards, advise her against doing it based on medical reasons (leave your personal judgments and RELIGION at home) but then give her the information she needed to protect herself as much as possible. You know, at one time it was not "considered normal" to allow women to practice medicine. Thank goodness we, as a society, have advanced our opinions of normalcy as we have become more civilized.
I agree with TruthAddict - it's pretty sad you, Dr. Madhumita Avinash Paul, are condemning any sort of sex act. As a medical professional, I would expect you to understand that if there is any negative associations to something, it will be hidden, there won't be any access to information/knowledge and therefore, an increased potential for health risks, etc. And to dccw - don't allow these sort of ignorant and small-minded people to change who you are and what you do in life. I understand you have questions about a pleasurable experience. I did too. I was misinformed and, at that time, had a very pushy boyfriend. Fortunately for me, all hope was not lost. My current boyfriend rocks. We did a bit more research together and explored what works best for us. The biggest help was this book I've recommended to all of my friends that are curious - Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy. It's thoughtful, thorough and offers great tips. But most of all, find the right partner who is caring, supportive and understanding!
i think Dr. Paul gave adequate advice. After all, this is a free country last time I checked. It doesn't hurt if a doctor has a religious opinion. It's not like she was condemning anyone, just stating her belief. AND, she also gave me useful information despite her reservations to anal sex. so people should not condemn someone else for condemnation, yeah?
I am in the medical profession and I do believe The doc was being judgemental. We are not meant to be in our professional. Be a professional Doctor and give advice not a lecture on religion. You want to have anal sex, use lubrication, lots of it, yes condoms are always a great idea, use them to, have fun exploring and enjoy each others bodies
For goodness sakes people! A question was asked and it was answered. People have opinions why is it ok for you to state yours and the dr gets bashed for stating hers? We live in a melting pot we are to embrace eachothers differences not condemn opinions that don't jive with our own.
My suggestions are as follows: use a lubricant to make it more comfortable for you. I prefer water based lubricants. Some women find that water-based lubes containing glycerin or sugar can potentially cause yeast infections, particularly if they're already prone to getting them. This is often the case with some flavored lubes, which are for external-use only and are not to be used inside the vagina or anus. One minor drawback is that water-based lubes can dry more quickly than other forms of lubricant; however, adding a bit more lube, water, or saliva can reactivate its slippery properties.
It will likely be uncomfortable and maybe even painful for your first experience in the rear, but there are positions and products that help with that. One position to try is to lie as if you are spooning, he can enter easily from that angle, and lying on your side will allow you to relax a bit more while he is entering. Also, in my experience, it is easiest and less painful if I push back against him, instead of him pushing into me. The reason being that when I am in control, I can adjust the speed of entry and whatnot for my own comfort. You might also try a product made for lessening the discomfort of anal sex, there are many products on the market for such use.
It is always recommended to use condoms for any type of sexual interaction, but it is most important to change the condom after anal sex, before it comes in contact with ANY other part of your body. If you have anal sex and decide to switch to vaginal sex, your boyfriend must remove the used condom, and you can use a wipe to cleanse yourself, before starting vaginal sex.
If you find that you enjoy anal sex, you can do additional research to prepare yourselves for future encounters. It's wonderfully that you sought advice before attempting it, being informed is always beneficial. I hope this was helpful.
-I am not a medical professional, the above statements are based on y own experience with anal sex as a woman with a monogamous male partner.
I didn't like it. It is uncomfortable and doesn't feel good. I found that anyone who wanted to try this was always distracted by my orgasm. If he performed orally first and I came, he couldn't wait to get in and always forgot all about entering from the rear. I strongly recommend oral first, every time.
I myself love Anal sex.... The secret is lots of lubricant! you must be relaxed!!! I always start laying flat on my tummy, my partner puts lots of lube on my anal passage and lots on his very large penis... He then very gently and slowly inserts his penis all the way inside me.... Its an amazing feeling. never ever go from Anal to Vagina ever!!! If he wants Vagina after anal he must have a good long shower or get him to use a condom for anal and remove it for Vagina, that's what we do... Best to go Oral, Vagina then Anal.... I actually love Anal Sex the best... I have it morning and night, can't get enough from my partner..... The main thing is be safe, clean, lubricated and enjoy
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