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Q: how to know if i like girls (bi-sexual)?
asked by: Sukki on May 22nd, 2009
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I'm 22 turning 23 and i don't know if im straight or bisexual. but i enjoy looking at girls as much as i enjoy looking at guys.. i stare at cleavages too.. but i find it awkward when my bestfren saw me in the nude before
anyway, i was in this diploma before but never completed, for 1 semester..
3 of my classmates were bi. 2 gals n 1 guy. one girl look like tomboy and dress in a punky fashion and the other girl and guy dressed perfectly normal. the girls were in a relationship.
the bisexual guy had a crush on me before, but i didnt know as i was involved with another of my classmates.
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homerx
replied on May 22nd, 2009
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how to know if i like girls (bi-sexual)?
only you can answer that question..at 22 you should have a good idea.I have known some people that didn't come out until they were in there 40s and even late 50s...don't spend your life denying who you are.If you are then great,if not,that's great as well, but only you can answer the question and if you don't know yet then you don't know yet,you will figure it out eventually..
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Lydia32
replied on May 22nd, 2009
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Just because you enjoy looking at women doesn't mean you actually want to date them or have sex with them. A lot of women (maybe most) like looking at other women, either because their nice to look at or to compare themselves. Even for heterosexual women, women's bodies are much more pleasing to look at than men's bodies--sorry guys. Look at a woman's magazine, like Cosmo or something like that, they are full of pictures of beautiful women advertising products. That's because it appeals to women who are looking at the magazine.

I wouldn't worry too much about this either way. If you find that you just like looking at women, that's normal for a heterosexual woman. If you find that it's more than that, nothing wrong with that either.

Bisexuality is more than just finding both sexes attractive. There are romantic and sexual feelings that go along with it. Those are what you need to figure out for yourself.

I hope this helps clear things up.
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Sukki
replied on May 22nd, 2009
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thanks, but im still not sure.. hehe =)
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Lydia32
replied on May 23rd, 2009
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Take your time. You don't have to decide right now. Maybe you'll figure it out when you meet the right guy or the right girl. Just don't worry about it at this point. Be open to your own feelings and things will work out. You don't have to stick a label on yourself if you aren't ready. Heck, you never have to label yourself, if you don't want.
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Sukki
replied on May 29th, 2009
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hmmm, i have some confusions sometimes. maybe i can say i have a pervertish manner. i sometimes stare at boobs and cleavage and at girls/women's underwear when the person is bending down to look at something.
i dont know yet; im still involved with men, haven't had any sexual thoughts for women.
but the other day i was at a local bookstore and i came across this novel 'scarred' where the author had been sexually abused by her father but she didn't understand what she was going through as a kid, and then eventually realized at a later stage of her life that she was lesbian. in short, she did enjoy sex with men, but she didn't know she was lesbian till she fell in love with a woman.
i dont know, really.
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caribbean
replied on September 30th, 2009
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this is really tricky, but i agree with the others do not label yourself and go with the flow. i have a friend that claims shes straight but actually like to talk dirty and induldge on a sexual level virbally with me.i d say that was bi would nt you??
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W0LF
replied on October 5th, 2009
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Hey Sukki
Your life isn't some Novel. You're not going to discover late in life that you're a lesbian after countless encounters with men. Your sexuality may come as a surprise to you but since you've mentioned staring at women's bodies in several of your posts there's pretty clearly some sexual interest there.
I'd suggest you look into the possibility of a fling with a girl. Either you'll like it or you won't and it will settle any uncertainty for you very simply.
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