How to deal with fury at husband

I may be posting on slightly the wrong forum here, but I recently lost a pregnancy, conceived at age 40, to a uterine infection at 20 weeks. It was a fairly awful.

I had been hugely lucky to have conceived quickly before (twice the first month, including at 40), and wanted to try again immediately. My husband refused saying he thought diet/exercise would reduce the chance of another infection. I tried every argument I could to dissaude him: uterine infections are rarely recurrent, that every month increased my chance of permanent infertility substantially, that there is no evidence exercise or diet decreases infections, etc. Then, he insisted on yet another ob-gyn visit to get the all clear, during which the nurse told him flat out "DO.NOT.WAIT" due to my age (almost 41). So, seven months after the miscarriage/stillbirth he agrees to try, and I had my first irregular period. Tests showed that I am now infertile. (Insult to imjury: I'm a physician, but he had disregarded me, saying "But you're not an ob-gyn.")

He admits he was wrong and has apologized, but I am still furious at him for not listening to me (I told him straight up it was "now or never") and taking away my last chance to have a child. I'm not sure how to get over it, and my anger is straining our marriage. I don't expect any responses (they are welcome, but I know I should just count my blessings). Thanks to everyone for letting me "vent."