If you get the answer to this, let me know! We are having a similar problem.. it's really disrupting our lives. Good luck!

If you can, put her to sleep in her own bed, and stay with her until she is asleep. You must be firm with her if you want to have a change...and it's not going to be easy.

You can also leave a t-shirt or some other item that you have worn close to your body with her at night. The smell and comfort of that clothing or even a blanket that you have used for a few nights should settle her fears of being alone.

It would probably take a week or two of consistent work to get her where you need her to be, but it is definitely for the best and you will both get more sleep.

Thanks! I am going to start on it tonight!

Our 16 month old was sleeping in bed with us every night. I know how terrible it is to listen to your baby scream because she wants her momma. That wasn't really an option for us. Each night when she fell asleep we put her in her own bed (in our room). When she woke up I would rock her back to sleep and then place her directly back into her own bed. Sometimes she would wake up again and I'd have to start over. This went on for a good two weeks (I was getting pretty exhausted), but the frequency of her waking up decreased a ton. Now she is sleeping through the night in her own bed and we didn't even have to make her "cry it out" like most people suggest. Our little one also had to be touching me in order to stay asleep. It took time, but now we're all happily sleeping again! Good luck!

i lived in an one bedroom apartment, i had a full sized bed and a futon. i slept with my son until he was 3 years old.
i moved to a two bedroom when he was turned 4. i would put him in his room every night, but i would wake up with him lying next to me. it took him a while, but he told me one day that he wanted to sleep by himself.
reason why
when he would go over his dad's house there was older kids there & they taught him to grow up.

well. the younger you teach them the better. my daughter sleeps with us just because i miss her being with me. but before that it was horrible. she hated the playpen. or anything that keeps them trapped. i started out a new relationship and i thought that we didnt have enough time together so i decided to teach her that playpens or cribs are good. i put her to bed with her bottle beside just incase she wanted it. but before that i would leave her to sleep in my bed. when she was fully asleep i would put a fan for her only at the side of me.(if hot)...(if cold) dont just put a regular bed sheet on to the bed or crib. puff it up. make sure its more comfortable then yours. and warm. when she/he is fully asleep pick him/her up and start moving them in your arms so they can feel the warmness. just like the crib. and gently put him/her down. i like to shake there pamper so they can have that vibrations as she did in my arms. at first my daughter the first time started crying. but i did it again. soon they goin to be so tired and tired of crying that they will want to stay in that place. as soon as you hear him /her waking up. wake up faster then them dont let them fully wake up. it would be horrible. cuz they would just start walkin to your bed. wake up before they wake up and give them a bottle or shake them. and sing to them or say its ok baby mommie is here. they will here you,feel warm, and are rocked to sleep they will feel like when they were in there belly. NOW im not saying its easy but most definately would work. now my daughter start crying and i say come here baby and she wont want too. she just throws the bottle at me because she is hungry. lol . but then she goes right to sleep.try it. even if it takes a week to a month. but they'll get use to it. try not to let him/her sleep over until you get him use to the routine. change there diaper atleast 2 times at night. give them food before bed. my daughter loves soup. and if she.he aint sleeping well try to wear them off thru the day. let them play, jump, and do anything thats safe.


Steps:
1. give them a nap early
2. give them a fun time.(toys that makes them hyper,songs...ect.)
3. give them something to eat
4. prepare there comfortable crib,toddler bed(make sure they are comfortable,try no to get them into a place where they feel trapped but yet wont fall.)(if you think she is crying because of you,put 1 or 2 used shirts of yours so she can recognize and think you are there.)
5.go to your bed with them,put him/her to sleep. pick them up,shake for about 3 to 5 min.put them in there place.rock them.
6. make sure they are comfortable.(if cold take alot of blankets)(if hot put fan just for her and wrap her up.
6. stick the bottle where he/she can reach it.
7. repeat procedure as much as possible.


**remember wake up before she does to attend to her/ his needs,make sure they dont sleep with bottle in mouth.

I will suggest that you let her sleep with you and as she falls in sleep you slowly put her in her bed. Monitor if she get up and cries. Repeat this schedule for few days till she sleeps in bed for full night. You can also give her some soft toys as a gift which she can take in arms while sleeping so that she will not feel alone.