Laura, my heart just breaks reading that. Isabella Rose, what a beautiful name! Actually when the doctor clears you sex can be resumed (usually 6-8 wks). I know some say start right away trying again as part of the healing process. Sweetie dont forget to take time to address your emotions for your loss. Your husband and you both should be on the same page.

Wait 6 weeks before having sex again. Before 6 weeks if you had a vaginal delivery you could get an infection or rupture something. As for trying to concieve again some medical persons say to wait several months as your body is not yet recovered. However I do have a friend that fell pregnant with her second son a mere 7 weeks after having her first. So good luck with everything. This is a very sad story ... may I ask .. your profile photo .. is that your daughter?

hiya i have had the same thing happen to me i was 21 weeks and had a beautiful little boy harry i wanted to try asap becase i wanted to be pregnant as it took me a year to fall pregnant with harry. i have found out i am 6 weeks pregnant which means i have fallen pregnant 3 weeks after i have lost my son. i am very suprised as i usually take ages to fall. the doctors have said i should b fine they are just goin 2 take extra care with me

Hi my name is Latwashia. I just went through the sme thing June 19, 2009. I was 31 weeks also. I hadnt tried to try again, but know my heart wont heal until I am pregnant again. I'm just scared it may happen the same way agian.

This happened to me at 32 weeks in Nov. 2008, 8 months after the loss of our 4 month old little girl. We are waiting till December...(because of my husband). I want to try now! Well I know when I got pregnant a month after our 1st daughter passed away I felt like I healed a lot quicker than I did with my 2nd daughter.

Good luck to you Lura, AND Latwashia!

This place should have a forum for TTC/Pregnancy After A Loss!

i had an emergency c section 6 weeks ago and sadly my angel didn't make it, i was 35 weeks pregnant. no baby will replace him but i need something to take away the yearing and i know the only thing that will do that is by having a baby.
i want to try for another baby but i don't know how long i have to wait.

You can try for another as soon as you feel ready. Some medical person's say wait 3 months for your womb to go back to normal.

thank you, in saw my consultant last week and said as soon as we were ready x

Hi,

I just had a stillbirth of my son Noah 2 weeks ago. It was 38 weeks 2 days. Everything had been so normal. We were ready to give birth to him when suddenly there was no movement. My heart aches so much as I am writing this message. I just don't understand how this could happen.

In 1 week I will turn into 41 years old and it took almost a year for us to had Noah. He has been our joy and hope in the past 9 months and now all we have is emptiness and sorrow. I feel like trying again asap, also due to my age, although I am so scared of what is going to happen. How much more tougher control can they have and how could they really help if by the time you feel no fetal movement, it is always too late?

My heart cries for Noah every day and every moment I thought about him. My heart urges me to get pregnant as soon as I can. But I decide to wait until at least I hear back from the doctor of what was the cause for this stillbirth as well as waiting for my body to fully recovered. I'd say that is 6-8 weeks?

Emotionly I am having so much turbulents. Some days I feel my heart is as cold as a stone other days my heart is so soft I cried till I could not breath. I do not expect this to be over and I shall carry Noah in my heart for the rest of my life but I will continue life with smile and hopefully with another healthy pregnancy.

hi gchinese

i am sooooo so sorry for your loss!!
each time i read one of these stories that all these women write it breaks my heart!!
my baby boy was born sleeping 12 weeks ago and i am also on an emotion rollercoaster. some days i don't want to talk to people or make eye contact and others days i need people to talk to.

my husband and i have decided to try for a baby and its not to replace my little angel archie but to fill the emptiness i have in my arms. i yearn to hold a baby but my baby and no one elses. he will always be remembered, never will we forget him!!
i had an healthy pregnancy up until i thought i was in labour so that is what scares me the most. how can things be absolutly fine and then turn out this way???
as for answers i wouldn't let the hospital carry out a autopsy so all i was told is if you have high blood pressure or smoke your chances increase, as i have neither to go against me i was told it was just bad luck.
they say things happen for a good reason but i can't see what good reason this has happened for!!
i hope you get the answers you need and i wish you all the luck in the world with your future pregnancies
xx

Hi Louise,

I saw that you are writing from England. I am sitting here in Sweden, south of Stockholm.

Like you, I do not drink or smoke, no high blood pressure, or high blood sugar or whatever. The baby was born with the cord loosely circled around his waist. They took his blood samples and mine. Nothing was found so far. Now it has been 13 days since he left me. I sometimes fancy his little kicks still inside me. The emptiness is enormous. How could people be so cruel to say that things happen for a good reason when you hold your baby's cold little hands and touch him again and again to feel his so tiny little innocent face, head, arms, hands and little feet. To this day, that feeling of holding my baby's hand, the cold but smooth hand, that feeling of not understanding why he just could not open his eyes pierce my heart.

I am not trying to replace him, never. He is a gift for me and for my life, forever.

hi gchinese
it is the most precious gift anyone could ever recieve!!
my profile picture is my babies hand around my little finger.
why do we feel like we have to explain ourselves all the time and try and convince people by saying 'i'm not trying to replace'? i think we all do what we want when the time is right. it was a few weeks ago that we decided to try for a baby. but now i am also worried/scared about how i am going to feel, excited or sad? what will i feel the first time i feel the baby move? will i actually get pregnant straight away or will it take time? will i be sad if its a girl or extra worried if its another boy?
none of the questions can be answered until it happens.
all of our precious memories will stay with us forever!
i had a fantastic midwife who encouraged me to take lots of photos (about 80 ) of which she took some. she did me his feet and hand prints and the hospital did two proffesional photos. i had the chance to stay with him for a few days to bath him and change him and although it broke my heart i am so glad i had all that!

Yes Louise, we don't have to explain to people how we feel as for me, no one, not only my husband can feel the same pain and trauma as I do. That little life had been punching and poking inside me for 9 months. We were connected breath to breath, blood to blood. Who else could understand that feeling?

I fully understand your fear and worry about the next pregnancy. Myself, even though I have not started yet, have had thoughts ups and downs about the next pregnancy. My midwife told me I should ask for extra control on the next one but no one can guarantee anything. Should I carry a heart beat monitor on me 24 hours a day? If that helps, I will do it. I also made up my mind to go ahead and have a planned C-section at the beginning of week 38 although that is not what the midwife favoures. (I delivered Noah naturally this time)For me, I just can not imagine how devestating it would be if something like this happen again.

I'd say go ahead as much as you can with a peaceful heart and mind. It will only be good for you and your baby. Worries,fear and doubts will surly come but tell yourself to focus on the positive thinking, tell yourself that is the best thing and the only best thing you can do.

gchinese
i am sooo sorry i haven't replyed until now!!

i think your right..... being positive is so much healthier than worrying!! i will try!!
how are you? silly question i know. i used to hate people asking me because it would make me cry.
i hope you have lots of support from friends and family
x

I lost my Hutch April 10, 2009. We had a chord issue. Too long and he moved too much. Then just stopped. It takes so long to heal emotionally. I will never be the same.
Now I am 6 days late. Pretty sure I am pregnant and scared! Thing I have figured out is that you just have to live. Accept that things happen but don't give up. I am 39. I know all the age worries too. Also, I was going through midwives. So I am struggling with doctor, no doctor. Is it ok to use my much loved midwives again. Thing is, you can not change what is meant to be. I am blessed to believe in the Resurrection promised by Jesus. Also I believe that Families ARE Forever! We will be together again. Trust your heart. Love all your babies. Be strong because you just do not know who else you are being strong for at that moment! Thank you for your inspiration. Blessings to all!

i also asked if extra ultasounds would help but they said not really.
my friend also lost her daughter with problems with her cord being extra long etc so i asked (when i saw my midwife) why the knot wasn't picked up. she said they only test a section of the cord and as long as there is a nice steady flow they would quite easily miss it.
i lost my baby to a concealed abruption and if i do decide to have another baby i will be consultant lead but still see a midwife in between.

i have been on a website about grief and that helped me. it tells you alot about how to expect to feel when you find out your expecting, feeling movements, finding out the sex of the baby, giving birth and even unexpected emotions after holding your baby. i hope it helps!

hi everyone, my name sue from Australia, I lost my litlle angel Jumana last week after her heartbeat stop, It's was my 40 weeks and she died in her due day, It's very hard to understand what happened untill now still i can't bleive that i lost my baby... I want to know what is the cause of the stillbirth? and when i can try for another baby?

hi sue,

I am so sorry for your loss!
I am sorry i don't have the answers you need as my baby passed away through a concealed placental abruption.
I can tell you though that I had an emergency c section and I was told if I had had one period then I could try again as soon as I was ready.
Hope this helps you a little bit
take care,
Louise.