First timer here!, so here it goes.
Me and my EX were together for 2 years. He went away to college in january 3 hours away. when he first left it was great we talked all the time on the phone every weekend and stuff like that he was always excited to come home and see me. about 2 months in we started to argue about stupid things, he couldnt call all the time because all he had was a cell phone so it costed alot of money, so it just got harder because we were having a " texting " relationship. the last time i saw him was valentines day, it was perfect went to his place hung out with his family he got me roses and we all went ice fishing together it was a blast. when it was time for him to leave we were talking about me going down there on March Break for the week and i got upset that he didnt even bother to ask his landlord if it was cool for me to stay, it was a stupid fight on my part he just got fustrated and pulled me in to cuddle so we didnt ruin he last hour of him being home. On the car ride to drop me off back home he sat alone in the back seat with his friend and didnt really talk to me. when we got to my place he got out and kissed me once like a peck and said bye. no ilove you. no nothing. i had to say it then he turned around and said it back with the " you should no i love you " tone, smiled and got in the car, that was the last time i saw him. 2 weeks passed and little bickering arguements continued where id be crying saying he didint care anymore and he would say he dose and that im never going to loose him. the day after that saturday, he came home on friday and he wasnt really txting me he didnt call me when he got home he just went out and played poker. saturday he went ice fishing with his buddy so we couldnt talk anyways. that night i txted him asking if i was going to see him this weekend at all. he replyed with " look i was thinking that we need to go on a break, dont cry or anything its just im not going to have time for us ". well i didnt want a break?.. like how could you need space when we barely see eachother to beging with i asked him if it was for another girl and he said god no, that he still loved me and cared about me so much its just that the distance was to hard.
and when he started his summer job thing for school he would be moving 4 hours away and that he would be to busy to make time for us,. i said fine ill just give you space then. thats all i could really do. i told him that i had things of his to give to him.. he couldnt see me and i dont understand why? he told me to just give the things to his sister at school??? so i just threw them pout it was just clothes and stuff.
a month later i sent him a hello txt, we talked and stuff, he told me about achool and that he might have to movie to BC! .. but he also told me he still loved me and cared about me. now hearing that made me want him back sooo much that i started asking him if we could maybe start over when he comes home in the summer?. he said that he wasnt sure and that he will have to see what gose on with school because he might not be coming home in the summer he might be staying there. now 5 or 6 weeks after that convo he tells me that he dosnt care anymore and that he dosnt love me? that i should just move on.. kind of a shock to me because he changed his mond so fast on that. i found out after he told me tthat, that he had to stay down there for school during the summer. me and his mom were very close so we still talk and she told me that he had to move further away and get a job for school credits. well after that he started to talk to me different like really rude and things. when wed talk if the conversation was going well he would flipp it into an arguement. this has been going on for 4 more months now. its been 6 months since we havent seen eachother or spoke on the phone, is all this txting i never know how to take what he says.he found out that i was seeing a guy, just hanging out nothing serious. and when wew were agueing ( over txt again ) he randomly threw in there " so i hear you have a boyfriend now " ?? i asked him who told him that because i really didnt? and he said it dosnt matter its not like i care anyways?.. if he dodnt care why would he bring that up? if you knew my ex.. he hates drama and if he dosnt care about something he just leaves it be. i just dont understand him.. he says he dosnt care blah blah blah then why dose he get angry about stuff like that .. and to this day now.. hes coming home this weekend and i asked to see him.. he said he would think about it.. to me, if your over someone you can see them and it wouldnt be an issue? no feelings would over come you .. HELP how do you think he feels!!??
Kassi, your boyfriend has alot of adjusting to do. Being in college, away from home, having a roomate (I am assuming this, unless he can afford an apartment off the campus)he as you will, should go to college is just trying to figure it all out. A college student doesn't have alot of money and texting becomes expensive. He says he love him, trust him on that. If you continue to over analyze everything and keep badgering him to text and spend time with you, you will have many a crying, sleepless night over him being out of your life. He needs time to adjust to his new surroundings and focus on maintaining his GPA (grade point average) this is very important. He is mentioning your male friend because you are sending mixed messages to him, that is a very dangerous game to play. If you love him, then love him and only him no playing mind games with other boys, or you just may end up having the table turned and hear he has a female friend. Put on your big girl pants and spend quality time telling him you are being a bit dramatic and immature because you have never been to college and you don't fully understand how time consuming studying acquires. Instead of texting, just email him...its FREE. Get busy with volunteer work or a part time job, you have to much time on your hand and your are creating a problem that only you can put a stop to.