I just got out of a four year relationship. I thought he was the one, we were together since we were 19 years old until 23 years old. He was sweet, kind, thoughtful and everything a girl would want in a guy. Things eventually began to turn upside down. We constantly tryed to work things out, yet the relationship continued to fail.

Jim and I were both in college. Most of our foucus was directed towards studying and me contantly asking him for help on homework. He was more of my own personal tutor/study buddy than my actual boyfriend.

I was never physically attracted to him during intercouse, yet I thought that I would feel different about him if I became more comfortable with him, which did not succeed. I saw him more of a best friend than a boyfriend, but did not know it during that early time frame in our relationship.

Now, I am talking to someone who I have vaugly known since I was 12 years of age. We crossed paths via my cousin who I recently began communicating with.

He and I get along great thus far, which has only been about fifteen hours of talking every night on the phone. He lives over 400 miles away, but wants to come and see me soon.

He does have a five year old daughter from his previous relationship and has full custody of her.

We all plan on getting to know eachother and if all goes well, potientially marry in the future.

My concern is, how can I deal with the fact that I am going to be a step mother and wife all at once if Cameron and I decide to marry? In addition, how can I deal knowing that his ex will always be involved?

I am not sure of where to begin about how big of a life change my life will be.