How Do You Keep The Romance After Being Together Forever?! Posted: 04-11-08 12:52pm
I feel like me & Shane are getting
bored together, & that's the last
thing in this world that I want. We've
been together something like 8 years,
going on 9 I think. We don't joke around
& be goofy together like we used too.
Is there any way to bring all of that
back? My worst fear is him getting bored
with me & finding someone else. It'd
be easy to do being that I'm stuck here at
home while he's working & all because
we only have one car. Any tips on how I
can get the romance going again & make
our relationship fun aside from being
parents!?
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ebarnhard33
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Posted: 04-11-08 13:54pm
I kind of know how you feel. It's like
once you live together for so long and
have a kid, you're more like friends than
lovers. But it is important to keep that
spark going. One thing me and Daren are
doing is getting away for a weekend (or
even just a night), just the two of us.
I'm not talking about just taking Kaylee
to grandma's for a night and staying home
alone. But actually getting away to
somewhere else... rent a hotel room for a
night and go out on the town. If you could
do something like that even once a month,
I guarantee it will get better. Or do
little things for each other, like just
sneak a kiss in unexpectedly, or
compliment each other at least once a day.
I'm sorry I couldn't offer more help. I
hope it gets better for you!
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Rosie H
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Posted: 04-11-08 15:24pm
How often do you have sex? You dont have
to answer that but that I think is a
really important part of a long
relationship. Of course sex is not
everything but it is a lot to a committed
couple.
SInce Daniel and I stopped having so much
sex I think our intmacy and funness kinda
went with it. We are still very
affectionate and laugh and have great sex
(when we do) but I think that if we had
sex at least a couple times a week we
would be closer?????
But definately try to find time with just
the two of you so he doesnt feel neglected
or alone and so you dont feel that way
either. I think once you remove yourselves
from the day to day routine everything
else will fall into place. You could be
more affectionate. Hug and kiss when you
part. Say I love you. Kiss each other good
nite. Also try to sleep together at night.
One thing I cherish is going to bed with
daniel and waking up together. I usually
go to work before him so its nice to just
sit and chat before your day starts. Even
if you take 15 minutes before bed or in
the morning it can make a difference. Also
do you two watch a lot of tv or have
people over? Turn the tv off and talk. Or
make one night a movie night and put the
baby to bed early. I hope this helps.
have you talked about this with your
husband? Does he feel the same way? I
probably talk too much but I make sure to
tell him that we need a night together or
something. Most of the time he feels the
same way, he just doesnt know how to fix
it.
