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Q: How do I tell my bestie that I'm sleeping with her neighbour?
asked by: kirstieh89 on September 14th, 2009
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To cut a long story short...

My best friend's neighbour invited me out, and my bestie said i could sleep at her's when we arrived home and to call her. {She had work most of the night.}

We got dropped off home at 2am both still very drunk and i was going on about Nintendo Wii and he was like I have one let's play it! He had tried to kiss me twice while we were out that night, and i drunkenly told him that I was very attracted to him but my friend had told me not to kiss him because he's a sleaze.

We were pretty drunk at his house and we ended up having sex, then I went and slept at my best friend's house.

I feel really horrible about it, and I don't know how to tell her cause I'm scared she will get angry.

He has suggested that we continue seeing each other in this way, and I am not looking for a boyfriend at the moment
and he isn't looking for a girlfriend but it was a really fun night and I enjoy talking to him as well.

So I am sort of interested in continuing it but wouldn't be able to do it without my friend's permission.

But how do I ask such a question? And what if she says no... And do I mention the drunken night :-/

She's my closest friend and I don't want to lose her ever.
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deteragram
replied on September 14th, 2009
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"Wouldn't be able to do it without my friend's permission"????????????????? How old are you? Why would you need your friend's permission?

If you're that stressed over it go find another guy to fool around with, stay away from the neighbor, and keep your mouth shut. There are plenty of guys that would love a no strings, sex only relationship.
Please don't needlessly create drama for the three of you.
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kirstieh89
replied on September 16th, 2009
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i'm 20. she's my best friend and he is a friend of hers as well. i think she would just be upset that i did it and didn't tell her afterwards that it happened and if i continue it with him i want her to be aware about it, i don't want to go and do it behind her back. i just don't know how to ask her about it without mentioning the drunken night i had with him.
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MyrahU
replied on September 18th, 2009
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Why are you so worried that she'll have a problem with it? Do they have a history? She said he's a "sleaze," so maybe you're worried she will judge you?

It's really up to you whether you tell her or not. If you think he will tell her, then maybe you should get to her first. If she's really your best friend, she will understand. Don't use being drunk as an excuse for sleeping with him because you are still considering continuing with things, so it's not like it was just a drunken mistake. I would advise that you get to know the guy a bit more before you sleep together again, just so you don't have any more regrets. Maybe your friend had a good reason for warning you about him and you should consider that.

Regardless of whether he is a sleaze or not, I really hope you used protection and will use it in the future.
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