What better place than a Forum such as this...So many women have lived in the pain that you are going through...It is not necessary to have a man in your life to live...I don't know your age but I do know that as you age a new world opens up to you...A world of both learning and loving...You learn that if you are ever loved again that a man must do it for the woman that is in front of him...She will not change...She is wonderful just as she is....

So many women lose their husband/lover from either death or something like what you are going through...I know one thing in my life and that is if something happened to my husband that I would never love again...I have known this for many years...Not just now...

Join a church group to find other women like you...There are so many around that are sad even though they are partnered...Marriage is not always the answer to happiness...Look deep inside yourself...Find a new part of you that has never shown her face...I guess I did this near four years ago...You see life has no age...We can find at anytime in our life that we have only just begun....

I send you all my love...
Caroline

alright, this sounds like a new path. But I may need guidance in finding ways to care about myself enough to move on to what you are saying. But I will start these beginnings.

Honey, we are all here to guide you...These women have helped guide me...Even though I am married and in a wonderful relationship, I am my own woman...This is what you are only never realized it...You don't need man...Man can be miserable unless you find one like you are...As we women age it is my thinking that we come out of the shell of following man...We become stronger...Maybe some of our strength is in our numbers...But I promise you...We will be here to guide you every step of the way as women have guided me in giving me my voice to talk of life....

You fight for life, you don't give it away....Only then do you realize that wonderful woman that you are inside and radiate with the happiness of just being alive....We are here every step of the way...

Every step of the way so neither of us falters...You see, you too, give me strength....
Caroline

Honey, I am leaving the site for a while, but there are many women here to guide you...I will be back on later tonight...Hugs...C

That helped alot, i appreciate your help.

two years ago i was you. my monster ex of five years wanted to be with another women, so he treated me bad in an attempt to end the relationship.
it's been two years and i am with a great guy, and my ex emails me telling me how miserable he is with the women he treated me bad for.
my ex always called me "plane Jane" but my new boyfriend's mouth drops when i wear a mini skirt.
i battle depression also because of my past, and this sometimes can effect a relationship.
when i left my ex, i had to leave in a shelter with my son, and my family turned their backs on me. but me and my son started over and we made it, and so can you.

There are many women that have walked in your shoes, myself included. First, you need to think of this as the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Put your mind off what you have lost and start thinking about YOU. You say you are not the kind of woman men notice. Then BE the kind of woman EVERYONE notices. First, take a look in the mirror and decide what you can do to make YOU feel better. Maybe a new hairdo, or a change of makeup and some new clothes. Then decide what you would like to do as far as a job if you need to get one. Once in a job, you will begin to make new friends, and there are other places you can find friends...church, support groups, singles dances. All kinds of places. Once you have support, you will begin to get your strength back, and feel better about yourself. Suicide is NOT an option. You are too valuable a person and life is too short now. A new road of your life is about to be traveled, and if you aren't here you might miss something OR someone wonderful! In the meantime, if your husband comes out of his coma and comes to his senses, you will be a whole new woman for him to want back, which of course, will be totally YOUR option to decide on. Hey, stranger things have happened! Sometimes men who see their wives gain new strength and confidence after they leave, become interested in them again. (and what better time to tell them "See ya!" than that?) Your life is just beginning....see where the road leads you. It could be even better than where you've been!

wow, thank you. It's easy to think people have been through this but actually hearing about it really gives support. Thank you so much, I'm trying, Im living with friends and changing from time to time. I have no family so people I used to know are all I've got so far. I really really need a job because I dont have enough money to buy new clothes n such, but time I think, and a place to stay would help.