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Q: how do I learn to trust again?

asked by: angelinhiseyes on March 8th, 2009

New User

My ex boyfriend, who is the father of my son, asked me if I wanted to work things out with him. I figured I'd give it another shot, in the hopes that it might work and my son could have his father closer in his life.
Well I got an email from somebody I don't know and they sent me a bunch of messages that he had sent her. At first I got really angry, thinking he was just playing around on me. After a few hours I cooled down, called him up and asked him. He told me that all these messages were from before we got back together, no big deal right.
I went to the website that it was all from and found his profile. He had created the account the Monday after we started to date again. I asked him about that and he said that the site was wrong and that he would close down his profile, and like a naive stupid girl I believed him and went about my day. Then I had this weird feeling about something so I checked it out and he had updated his profile saying that he was now looking for a discreet relationship.

I feel so stupid and used right now. I hate this feeling.
There's a guy at work that keeps asking me out for coffee, but I keep saying no, sorry I have a boyfriend. I guess I'm single again, but will I ever be able to trust a guy again?

Replies(7)

J3nnyuk

replied on March 8th, 2009

Moderator (online)

hi it will be hard to trust again but you will get there eventually....Jenny

leeslight

replied on March 8th, 2009

Supporter

Well I would first end the relationship, that your suppose to be in...

Then go out for coffee, your allowed to make real friends not ones off the internet...

I think he is playing a stupid game with you, and its cruel... and he wants you to end the relationship... So end it.. your son doesn't need a full time dad like that....

He'll be lying to your son next!!!

best of luck

Fairy Godmother

replied on March 8th, 2009

Supporter

I agree

I agree with leeslight and Jeny. First off, kick his A$$ the curb. There are pleanty of good, honest and decent men out there who will not only respect you, but your son as well. You are not stupid, you got oyur heart stepped on.....pick it up, put it back and keep it safe this time. You and your little boy deserve a great life, and now its up to you to make this happen. I know it is the law that he be able to see his son and oyu can get child support from him as well.....but in the times between, go out, have coffee, see a movie, do whatever you feel like. Meet new friends! Life is too short to waste time on someone who will not appreciate or respect you. You are gonna be just fine. Now put those big girl panties on and make some changes......Always here if you need me! Feel free to PM anytime as well! I got your back girlfriend....Been in your shoes.....SEVERAL times.....HUGS! FGM

ServiceU

replied on May 8th, 2009

Supporter

first off i would never date a guy from work. if yall become intimate and breakup, it could say some nasty things about you creating a uncomfortable enviroment.
your baby's dad mightve wanted to get back with you and be around his son. but he went in thinking he's not going to be faithful. do not call yourself stupid, actually you should call yourself lucky for not telling this story 6 years into the relationship.

AlidaSakmet

replied on October 21st, 2009

New User

society has made men out to be "cheaters" but don't be alarmed! there ARE some decent guys out there. now, not all of them will be a knight in shining armor (i.e. the "perfect guy") i know my boyfriend is like that. he's the greatest guy in the world but like all humans, he's not perfect but darn near close! i think if you are interested in pursuing this other guy, you should keep your wits about you and if you think he's someone you want to be with for a long time then talk to him about what's bothering you so there are no barriers. just be like "hey, i have a trust issue, i hope you can accept that and help me work through it by giving me the support i need" or something to that affect.

if you want to talk more about this feel free to send me a message or something.

hope everything works out!

~Blue

W0LF

replied on October 22nd, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

I bought kiwis last week. Really late in the season but I figured they must be growing somewhere year-round. They were wretched, I think rotton given the odd coloration. I even complained to the manager at my store (Something I never do). Next year when kiwi's come around again I'm going to buy them, early into the season, and from the same store not because I'm stupid but because I love them and they make me happy and and out of the hundreds of Kiwi fruit I've bought only a few left a bad taste in my mouth.

Some men are great some men are rotten but we allways remember the men who fail us and out of all of the relationship we have with them we only remember the moments of failure and we allow our sense of trust to be destroyed. The world is full of men and they really are available year round. Keep your eyes open when you find one. If you get one that's rotten, complain about it and look for one that isn't but don't let the few bad men in the world ruin you.

Users who thank W0LF for this post: J3nnyuk

PatrykP93

replied on October 28th, 2009

New User

I'm a guy, I can myself tell you that guys are pigs and a holes.. But there are good men around. Just take your time, keep your guard up, don't get brainwashed, don't trust a man with anything big until you're 100% sure he's a good man...

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