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Most of us females have never had an orgasim so my question is how would i get an orgasim with my partner not masturabating i know all females are different but i want all of yall opinions
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replied November 8th, 2011
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"Most of us females have never had an orgasim" - It is simply not true. Most women will orgasm pretty easy from masturbation. Masturbation Is an important part of a woman's sexual development, also plays an important part in becoming orgasmic with her partner.

Do you orgasm when you masturbate? If you do, how do you masturbate? Do you rub your clitoris like the vast majority of women? Or do you orgasm from inserting something inside your vagina? Most women will orgasm from rubbing the clitoris, and that is also the secret to having an orgasm with a partner. Get the neccisary stimulation to your clitoris, and you will orgasm.
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replied November 9th, 2011
Thanks but i dont get an orgasim when his penis is in me or anything else just when i masterbate could use more fun if he gave me headache but he doesnt like that well he doesnt know how to haha but thanks
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replied November 9th, 2011
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LOL, Iamshure you meant head, not headache.

Maybe this is your chance to teach him. Every man have to learn at some stage.

If you are clean, and give him blow jobs, there is no reason why he should not enjoy pleasuring you. Start with an anatomy lesson, he probably knows less than you think. Explain the role of your clitoris in your sexual pleasure. Show him how you masturbate so that he can see how you like to be touched. Take his hand and use his finger, or straddle him and use his penis to masturbate with. Show him where to lick. Explain that he should not bite or suck hard. Tell him to ask you questions, help and guide him.

When you are having sex, you or him can put fingers down there and rub your clitoris while he is inside you, or get on top, grind down and rub forwards and backwards to stimulate your clitoris.
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replied November 15th, 2011
Lol yeah sorry! Thats what I meant and yeah your right. Everyone has to learn if I did why cant he but thanks so much
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replied November 15th, 2011
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It is very easy to learn how to please a man. Basically if you show up, he is happy. A woman does not work quite the same way. There are a lot of complexity in a woman's sexual response and anatomy. You can see everything he's got, he can see very little of what you have.

There is no way he can just instinctively 'know' this. There are many many women that are just as ignorant about their own bodies as the men in their lives. Many woman does not know how their genitals look, or how to get an orgasm. The majority of women are clueless when it comes to getting their own orgasm during sex.

When I have dealt with partners, my aim was always to leave him more knowledgable and a better lover for his next partner. If every woman does this, we would not have adult men that are pathetic lovers and does not know the clitoris from the labia. So do not make a chore out of it, consider it as your very special gift to him and his future partners, teaching him how to behave around a woman and how to pleasure his partner.

If he is not able to learn, or refuse to please you, get rid of him. You do not need a selfish sexual partner. There are enough other selfish people in your life. When you share your body and emotions, you should expect to be treated as his equal with him as attentive to you as you are towards him.
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replied November 18th, 2011
i have a question.
whenever my boyfriend gives me oral, and licks his tongue and moves his finger on my point, i guess clit [above the vaginal opening] it gives me pleasure and i feel my abdomen is filled with something.

i start feeling that i am about to pee and make the entire place wet n freak him out.

so i run away in the washroom and pee. [while some of u say that its not the pee! Smile]

kindly help.. is this "cumming" or "orgasm" what i experience? or peeing?
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replied November 18th, 2011
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If it smells and looks like pee, it is pee. If it is clear without smell, it is more likely to be female gushing - a clean clear fluid that is formed during sexual arousal.
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replied November 18th, 2011
whenever i masturbate myself.. i feel the fluid which flows off is pee.
but when he gives me oral, the fluid is clear.. i think that means> its not pee.
so does this mean i have cum? while he did oral on me?

or i have squirted if he continue to push his finger inside my vagina..and the clean n clear fluid continues to flow out??
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replied November 18th, 2011
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There are various fluids that can come out of you.

Female ejaculate which is from the Skene's glands. It looks like male semen because it is from the female prostate glands (Skene's glands). It is about the same amount as male ejaculate, remember it is formed in the same glands as male semen. It tastes sweet.

Female squirting or gushing - during arousal the bladder rapidly fills up with a clear clean fluid. This can be clearly seen on MRI and ultrasound studies of the female pelvis during sexual arousal and orgasm. This fluid will normally gush or shoot out when the bladder spinchter muscles release during orgasm (unless you fight to hold it in), or when you push down like you want to pee or his fingers/penis hits the bladder spinchter muscle from inside the vagina. This fluid is much clearer than urine, does not taste of anything and does not smell like urine.

Urine - some women will lose control over their bladder during sex and pee. This can also be due to the spinchter muscles being manipulated from inside the vagina by a finger or penis. Or because of some incontinence. Age and pelvic floor muscle health can play an important role here. Some women will pee during penetration. This is normally due to stress incontinence, and can be caused by natural child birth or trauma to the pelvis. Urine does however have a smell and salty taste, and can be yellow or clearer.

Then there are all the smaller quantities of fluids. Arousal fluid from your vagina, cervical mucus from your cervix, fluid from the Bartholyn glands around the vaginal entrance. His pre-ejaculate fluid and his liquified semen after sex.

So you can see that sex is a mixture of fluids and can be messy. If he is not worried by it and are encouraging you to gush and squirt, go for it. Do not let worry and doubt come in the way.
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replied November 18th, 2011
Re: How do i get an orgasim
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Most of us females have never had an orgasim so my question is how would i get an orgasim with my partner not masturabating i know all females are different but i want all of yall opinions

Unless you're very different from most women, the easeist way to orgasm is stimulation of your clit. That's why it's there, to be stimulated by your partner while having intercourse. Try the "PERFECT PLEASURE," a really nice vibator.

I know some women think they are bad, kniky, unnatural or whatever. I can tell you from experience, my wife and i have been using one for over 15 years and she absolutely loves it. At first, she thought it was "a bad thing" because it was a sex toy but after the first time, there's no going back.

I usually let her cum one or twice with it while she lays it right on her clit and let's it do it's wonderful work. It's absolutely the best thing we've ever done for our sex life as watching her cum with it also gets me ready. We also sometimes, when she's really in the mood, since i'm fairly small, use our cyberkin dildo that i insert while licking her clit and then let her lay the vibe on her clit and watch her reach her hardest orgasm ever, then i go in for my pleasure.

If you can get past the 'stigma' of sex toye, i promise you you'll not regret using a nice dildo, ours is 7 inches long x 1.5 inches around. Be sure to get the cyberkin brand though, they are just like a real penis and my wife loves it!

Let me know your results and i hope i've helped with your orgasms.
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replied February 4th, 2012
Buy a vibrator then rub it over your clit while he is having sex with sex with you the combination feels amazing and you will cum.
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