If you tell your cousin, it's a serious family scandal. People might try to hurt you too. He's married. If he stays with her, then you won't really have anything. Yes, you can continue to have sex with him, and he'll still be with her. You'll have nothing in the end. That leaves you out in the cold. I'm not a moralist. I do think what he did is very selfish. He's older. You're 18. Things happen, but it's a mess now! I don't know what you should do. I think most people would advice you to no longer be involved with him at all, even as a friend. That's tough advice when you have feelings. You probably have a lot of passion for him, and maybe even feel addicted to the relationship. Try to meet someone else, so it's easier to break the feelings up. Distance works too. It will be very difficult for you. I wish you the best.

I think, you should really cop it sweet... he's cheated on your cousin with you, he's cheating on you with your cousin and god knows who else.. and once a cheater always a cheater, so your both better off with out him.

What you did was completely wrong... your 18, you know right from wrong, as does he.

How would you feel if she had done it to you.???? How would you feel????

I wouldn't like to carry around that secret, and feel sick every time I see her....

I'm not coming down on you personally, its just the "Act" that is up setting.

What ever you decide, I hope it works out for you... but you do need to get away from him...

I would strongly discourage you from telling her, unless confronted. Who's going to get hurt? You will. He's unfaithful. She knows who she's married to, or, at least, she has an inkling. Let him take the fall on his own when the time comes. If you leave and he wants to cheat, he'll choose someone else.

I know most people will identify with the cousin and tell you to spill the news. If I were you, I would just walk away on my own. Any betrayal that occurred is really his since he's married to her.

hi if i were you walk away and and learn to live with things as are they are.
you mentioned you both have developed feelings for each other. can i say it is all too easy at your age to be bowled over by his charms but i think he has abused your trust knowing you will say nothing so no one gets hurt.
i think he already has a few on the go and you shall be used to take the heat off him if found out.
far easier to take it out on a person they know than a mistress they don,t.
yes what you both did was wrong but he has his reasons for choosing you.
you have a young life ahead of you so go out and enjoy yourself and put this behind you.
i bet he wont be losing sleep or feeling the guilt you are carrying. its true what has already been said it won,t be easy and great advice already given keep your distance. you have the choice to walk away and not look back.

He is an older man and has taken advantage of your youth...He also is well aware of how to awaken a woman...Now you must find a way to put this down as an experience in your life that must be kept secret....File it under something that you learned that never should have been...Your feelings are not because of him, but because of the sexual feelings that he has awaken in you....Maybe a mixture of gratitude and a confusing feeling of a woman that is capable of having a man come after her as a needed object of love...Believe me, he is not being truthful and you are just learning about life...Stay away from him...Keep it to yourself and grow...

It is a memory that will stay with you, but as you age you will be kinder to yourself....

Good luck,
Caroline

everything i've done in my life came back on me good or bad. just a statement!
to answer your question you have to put yourself in your cousins shoes. if you were married and your cousin slept with your husband several times. would you want your cousin to tell you?
it's possible she will never speak to you. i would try my best to stay away from them. once you sleep with someone once, it's easy to do it again. i hope your not going to do it again, this will only hurt her more.

dont forget sometimes guys get caught by accident. how would you feel if she's at your door confronting you about it.

just avoid the cousin and her husband. u can act like u have an awesome bf, but thats just an idea.