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How do i break up with my boyfriend of almost three years?!

Okay this may sound very stupid but i made a "pros and cons" list of my current boyfriend.. i had about 4 pros and like 12-15 cons. that has got to say something right?! anyway... i lost my virginity to him and hes a really nice guy but he is verrrry overbearing and verrrryyy jealous. he always tells me what to do and never lets me go out and do what i want to. he also has to know where i am and what i am doing at every point in time. he doesnt let me hang out with the opposite sex because he thinks something is going to happen. he has gotten better because i recently broke up with him and told him that if he continues on acting the way he has i dont want to be with him anymore... but keep in mind i have broken up with him every single summer since we have been dating so that is about three times and he doesnt want to get hurt anymore.. when i last broke up with him, he had told me that if i break up with him again that means he is completely done with me and never wants to speak to me ever again. i also have another problem... my ex boyfriend and my current boyfriend HATE each other and i still care about my ex alot. i want to hang out with him before he goes off to college and that is reallyyyyy soon. i want to break up with my current boyfriend just so i could see what will happen between myself and my ex because we have always talked to each other via text messages and on the computer and we will always have feeling for each other.. i just think that if i still have feeling for someone after being with someone else for 3 years... there as got to be something there still... please write back when you see this... im in desperate need of help... thank you Smile
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replied August 20th, 2009
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if you love your boyfriend you wont break up with him just to see if something will happen between your ex you had/have feelings for years ago.
that would be so wrong!!!! what if you break up with your b/f and nothing happens with the ex. what will you do after that?
break up with him only if you dont want to be with him any longer.
your current b/f has to get his insecurities under control because he's creating an unhealthy relationship.
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replied August 21st, 2009
No, he is your ex for a reason. It is normal for teen boys to be jealous. That's going to happen, however if he is overbearing then you will need to sit down and have a talk with him about that. If you love your current boyfriend, quit hurting him. That is very painful, and not something to just throw around. Only use the words break up when you actually are positively sure, and when you definitely don't want to be in a relationship with the boy any longer. I can see why he is threatening you to never talk to you again the next time you break up with him, because he is hurt from it happening so many times. This boy obviously cares about you a lot, and I don't think it is very fair that you talk to your ex via text and computer. Atleast, if he doesn't know about it. Let your current boyfriend know about the feelings you have for your ex.
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replied November 9th, 2011
Break.up with your boyfriend of 3 yrs. Don't go back to ex. Be alone and date or immerse yourself into a fun hobby ! There's plenty of fish in the sea! No jealousy is not normal and yeah there are really sweet caring and gentlemen dream guys out there and you are wasting your time right now - time you could be spending either the right guy! Making a strong decision sticking to it is part of adult life. It sounds like your cutting scissors are broken girl. You should learn to cut your ties there will be many boyfriends and no u don't have to tie yourself to the first one that came along! If you have girlfriends listen to them - they will tell you that if you are unhappy you should find your happiness - like now! Life is too short and you don't really want to rememberthis on and off boyfriend situation on your deathbed. Trust me been there done that. Gave chances- lesson is:too.much heartache, not worth it! You deserve the best stallion in the world. Not a selfish diva boy.
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replied November 24th, 2011
Good answer...She needs a fresh start and means a long break from relationships.
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