How do i get over my babys daddy? Im 9wks pregnant and our relationship is going down hill. He doesnt appreciate me and disrespects me at times...i really love him and i want to make it work between us but it seems like im trying on my own. Sometimes i feel like deserve better. I really dnt kno what to do. ): I dont want to be stressed out for the health of my unborn child but he really makes it hard for me...does anyone have some advice for me?
First off, think about all of the good things about yourself.
Secondly, remember that you are carrying a life that you will be responsible for for atleast the next 18 years. Not trying to scare you, you should be concious of how EVERY decision you make will effect your child.
Now about your BF, has he always been this way? Were there signs of his behavior there before things got serious, and you didn't see it? Or you didn't want to see it? If he wasn't always this way, then the it could be the stress of having a new child. Maybe he knows the baby will be more important than him and is jelous? He maybe nervous or scard about becoming a father. No matter what the situation is, it is no excuse for him to treat you, the soon to be mother of his child badly. He should have the utmost respect for you, and instead of hurting you or making you feel bad he should be protective of you. A lot of times men want to play, but don't want to pay. He probably doesn't want the responsibitlity.
You definately deserve better, and so does your little one. Stress could cause you to have a miscarriage and several other complications during your pregnancy, you don't need to be stressed. If it will be better for you and your baby to leave, then do it.
If you just don't want to leave (which I think might be best) try and talk with him. See if you can get him to open up. If he shuts you out, or says he will change and doesn't, it's a sure sign it's not going to work. That means that things may only get worse.
You can't be in a relationship by yourself, if he wont' try he's not worth your time. If you still don't want to leave him permantly leave for a while. Maybe being lonely or having you away will show him what he could lose. Also remember you can't force anyone to love you. Remember to love yourself, and remember your baby will love you no matter what. I will pray for you, and I hope this helps.
Girlfriend please do not take this the wrong way but you are a little over two months pregnant, if that man ain't giving you no act right already, you can put your bottom dollar on it that you won't get any in the future. If I were you, I would get an abortion and run away from that man as fast as I could, and NOT look back. I know it seems selfish to the baby but you are about to committ yourself to a lifetime of pain and possibly raising that child all by yourself. The decision is ultimately yours, but please just be prepared to do this by yourself if you have to.
I agree with you!! Had I known how my son's father would act.....I would have gotten an abortion too. He begged me to keep my son to only cheat on me when I was 8 months now he does not even spend time with him. I hate that I trusted him because having a baby to me is VERY serious. I am the one trying to do something with my life (school, work, internships, traveling, etc) and now I am the one that has to put things on hold. This has not affected his life in anyway...but it has made my life a living hell! I will never have a baby by anyone else unless I am married to them and I probably still wouldnt. Being pregnant and hurt at the same time is a whole different type of pain than not being pregnant and getting hurt. It is def not something I can take again.
Hey girl, im sorry you are going through this.the feeling sucks,i kno cause i been going thru it.. i was with my sons father for 8 years on n off n if i knew he was going to treat me n my son like this i would have left his ass a long time ago.. i dont regret my son, i just regret bringing him into this world wit a ahole father like that.. hes abused me physically and mentally for many years and i refuse to let him bring me down anymore!!! He cheated on me when i was pregnant and like a idiot i forgave him but was never able to forget and because of that my anger continues to grow. Which is not healthy.. ultimately u r in control of what you want to do n don't let noone tell u different.. feel free to contact me if u need to talk.. n again im sorry your going through this