He can't tell you what to do with your baby. You have to look into your heart and see what YOU want. Finishing school is very important. If you can, I'd recommend staying in school and graduating. If you can't, a GED is the next best thing. It is terrible that he hurt you so bad. At the same time, every child deserves a father. If he is into drugs that isn't a good environment for a child. I would recommend telling him that he can be a part of the child's life (this doesn't mean you have to date or be together, and it doesn't mean you have to give the baby up to him. maybe he can have visits once a week/whatever you and/or the court agrees on) only if he cleans up his act and stops the drugs. Good luck hun, this is a tough situation but you can do it. Stay strong.

How far along are you? Do your parents know? If not they need to asap? they can help you with a "plan"

your body, your choice

my ex is also into drugs, and left me recently, i am 35 weeks pregnant. I told him he could be a part of babys life, but that he had to have supervised visits and was not allowed to take baby overnight unless he stopped drugs and only smoked cigarrettes outside. I also told him that if he didnt like those terms we could take it to court, where he knows id win because he cant pass a drug test. Hope that helps.

Thank you to all and For the one that siad does my parents know yes and thwey are helping me and the dad is now atrying to stop drugs and smoking and wants to be there for the baby and is coming around but wants it alot more than I will let him and the only reason I won't let him alot is cuz of his girlfriend and her baby and I am about 4-7 weeks along I think!!!

He wants you to have a baby, but he has a new girlfriend?

So he wants you to either get an abortion or let him be a big part of this baby's life, although he has a new girlfriend with a baby?!
Obviously, you need to do what you think is best. It sounds like he wouldn't be a very good father. If he's 19, does/did drugs and was with a 15 year old just to have sex with her, it doesn't make him sound like a very mature person. On top of that he left you [I'm assuming..?] for some other girl with a baby.
However I don't know him, so I could be wrong.
Just my opinion. In any case, I'm sorry you're in this situation.
I wish you the best of luck :]

Omj, that sounds like a bad situation!!!! HEre's a link for help, pm me for anything!!!!

http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/

http://www.lifecall.org/

http://www.priestsforlife.org/crisis.html

Good luck, I'll be praying for you!!!!

Hey it is me again now he is telling me that he wants to help with the baby and be here and raise the baby and that he wants to get back together with me if we can and if I want to... He is leaving the girl that he is with on sunday when he sees her... But I have this really bad gut feeling that he is lying to me again and I do not know what to do about it... He claims that he made a mistake and that he thinks that he might love me and wants to try to... But I don't know cuz UI can not handle being hurt anymore do you guys have any advice for that one thanks for all the advice and help so far it has helped alot also,.....

Where are your parents during all of this? I don't know where you live, but isn't what your ex bf did considered statutory rape?

First of all, it's your choice whether you get back with him or not. You obviously don't trust him not to leave you again, and you don't trust him to leave his girlfriend now. You don't even know if he's lying to you right now or not.

WHY would you want to be with someone like this? It will only bring you heartache and pain. You're worth so much more than this, and you're selling yourself short if you let him treat you this way. You deserve to be treated like a queen.

Relationships need loyalty and trust. He isn't loyal - he's proven that already - and you don't trust him. What kind of relationship is that? Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you don't deserve the world from someone, and it's obvious he isn't able, or willing, to give that to you.

If he wants to be involved in his child's life, I think that's great. But I think you should wait on getting back with him until he PROVES that he's worth getting back with. Don't allow yourself to be used by this guy. You're going to be a mother - probably a single mother - and you need to learn to stand up and be strong.

It's better to be alone than with someone who treats you so terribly.

New update... So me and him were going to get abck together and he went to brake up with his gf but instaed they talked everythng out and worked everything out and are better than ever now and I got an ultrasound and I made him a copy and the funny part of all this is he said he don't give a shi* about it and then goes and tells his gf thast he can't wait to see it and to hold this baby for the first time ever... He also told her everything about him that he has never told anyone else before and what not... Well except for e of course... But me and him also slept together again since I found out that I was pregnant by him and he had told me that he was braking up with her the nect time he talked to her... So I trusted him and look where it git me again... I do not know if I should trust him around this kid or not and i am really scared and confused right now and I do not know what to do...

if he told you he doesn't care, then don't let him see it. I'd milk him of every penny you can since he helped make it. It's not just your responsibility, it's his too. Whether he gives you money or you make him through a court. I'm sure they'd be interested in why an adult is having relations with a 15yr old. I'm sorry you are going through this, I can't imagine what it must be like. I hope everything works out!

Okay.. Im 19 and I broke up with my bf before finding out I was pregnant because of him doing drugs and always ditching me for his friends and stuff.. Basically we never spent time together and I was sick of always sitting at home alone. In the beginning of my pregnancy he was a really big jerk to me and treated me like s*** all the time. After getting my ultrasound though, he came around. He quit doing drugs and even smoking. But now he drinks, like every weekend. It's getting better but Im also scared that he will never change. anyway. Why dont you tell him that HE can sign off HIS rights if he is going to talk badly about you being pregnant. Thats exactly what I did, and my babys dad decided to come around really fast. Now we are working on getting along but I refuse to date him again at this point because I cant trust him and I was too stressed while I was dating him. Just work on your emotional relationship, it has worked great for my baby's dad and I.

What effect does this have?

"Why dont you tell him that HE can sign off HIS right"

He is still legally required to pay child support, right? So why would the guy voluntarily sign off his right?

Sorry if it's a dumb question.

What is the reason you want to have this baby?

No credible judge is going to allow the signing off of rights.

After reading about it I guess that is right.. I was naive for believing my parents that I could just go to the couthouse and have Travis sign a piece of paper and never have to deal with him again. But after reading about it online, usually the only way you can have someone sign off parental rights is through adoption ex:if I married another man and I wanted him to adopt my baby then travis could sign off his rights giving all paternal rights to my new husband.. sorry for the ignorance I thought it was just as easy as running down to the courthouse and saying "He wants to sign off parental rights" judge would say "ok" give us a piece of paper, Travis would sign and have nothing to do with me or the baby ever again walaa! lol but obviously it doesnt work that way.

No, it doesn't work that way. Your child deserves to be supported by 2 parents. Even if you personally never deal with him again, he is the father of your child. He is nothing to you, but 1/2 of your child's genetic make-up. Both of you owe it to that baby you created to provide everything you can for him/her.