Hi i am unmarried.Now a days my sexual desire has become very high and i am not understanding how to control it.Due to this i am unable to concentrate on my studies. Please let me know how to control it so that i can concentrate on my studies
Learn to masturbate. That is why you got two hands that can reach your genitals.
In the old days women would go to the doctor for 'hysteria'. Hysteria was exactly what you describe. The doctor or nurse would massage the woman's genitals with oils until they orgasmed to 'cure' the hysteria. Later years the doctors and nurses used the first versions of vibrators to do it much more quickly and efficiently. Of course in those days (before 1950's) very little was known about female sexuality and orgasms.
Luckily we now know much more now and we can cure ourselves so go for it.
well i found this page while searching a website that can help me to control my extreme sexual desire .Am a single women(31yr)living in Dubai. pls any professional Doc.on this who can describe whats wrong with me and how to control it pls reply.
Nothing is wrong with you; it is lack of knowledge that is weighing you down. In the combustion of fuel, you have as products ,the Exhaust smoke and the Heat energy, the Exhaust smoke has no use but the Heat Energy is what is been used for many things. What you are complaining of today is the Exhaust smoke but the Heat Energy is behind. Your strong sexual desire is not a problem you are highly bless among people but the problem is that you don't know how to utilize your blessing. Control and convert are two different things, you are looking for how you can control extreme sexual desire but the right thing for you to be looking for is how you can convert this extreme sexual desire into other useful products.
I know this may seem crazy, but it's all about controlling it...
play yoga, listen to music, pick a sport and stick to it...
I have heard that masturbating have a long term side effect, it decreases your sexual desire when you in the future get married or have a sexual intercourse. It has been proved by many doctors, so as not to bargain your fertility and later on your sexual desire...
I came to this forum while searching for how to control my over excessive desire for sex.I am a male and glad to know that woman feels the same way too.
Having said that,masturbation is not really the most effective cure and i agree that playing yoga,listen to music and pick a sport might help but not cure.
The feeling will still surface again,trust me i am talking from experience.
The ultimate solution is to find a partner with the same desire to sex as you.And for the woman in dubai,if you contact me i can help you out
i am also having really high sexual desire. How to control it? i cant answer it either. i used to masturbates by humping something soft at my vagina, or put something soft between my tights and rub it hard against my vagina. i do that when i was a virgin though to release the tension.. you can try it as an exercise to for your tight too ..lol..
I agree. Pure nonsense. I also disagree with the woman who advised getting a hobby and to gain control. Our bodies are the most beautiful creations on the planet. If we cannot enjoy ourselves, when we wish - or when we need to, but rather deny ourselves, then there is definitely something wrong with society.
I am a middle-aged man, recently divorced who lives alone most of the time. Sometimes I wonder if my daily masterbation is harmful, but when I do visit my fiance (we live several hours from each other - by air), the desire is as high - or higher than ever.
I do not believe we "empty" our sexual desires (neither men nor women) but rather our "alone time" helps us understand our bodies even better!
It can be hormonal. I found using Progesterone Cream helped to balance out my hormones. I had a high sex drive and while Progesterone helps to increase libido for women with low sex drive, it also just helps to balance things out.
High T-levels in women can be responsible for high sex drive - but also a lot of sex is int he brain and I found that I really needed to be loved sexually. I was glad I was married, but I needed it more than my husband could manage (though we got a second honeymoon out of it which lasted a long time!).
My sex drive is still much higher than it has ever been, but it has settled down a lot since I came to terms with a psychological problem I had in the area of love and romance.
I found my mind drove my body then my body drove my mind so it was a vicious circle. I found masturbating only increased it and didn't always bring relief unfortunately because having an orgasm wasn't enough, I really desired deep penetrative sex and high energy sex to bring relief.
Its a very distressing condition - all I can say is try and go with the flow and hopefully it will blow over after a couple of years.
Embrace your sexuality ladies it's a gift from God.
Listen! to all you ladies you are not abnormal you are perfect and wonderfully made by God. If you like me have a strong sexual desire and are easily aroused be Happy! your man should be.
What I do when I get the urge which is most of the time I satisfy myself if He isn't around. I might have to do it continuously until the urge lessons. This way I've had my fill until the next uncontrollable urge.
I am not ashamed but Blessed and I know it. The men I've been with love me and can't get enough of me. Yes I think of sex a lot and my Doctor says: there are women that wish they had the sex drive I and possibly you have. Enjoy what God gave you. You are Blessed and Beautiful.
I appreciate my gift to satisfy my husband in the best way. I have been masterbating since I was 7 or 8 years old on a regular basis and I have never had a decrease in my desire infact the older I get the more it increases.
I and my Husband today love it. We spend all our leisure time enjoying each other in every way possible. No I'm not a sex machine,but the slightest touch to my nipples even if it's me that touches or brushes up against someone or something I am turned on and can't be turned off until my need is met and I love it.
I can't change it or who I am so I embrace it. It's my gift from God.
That's a lovely positive attitude nipples and I agree it is a gift.
However sometimes it is just very slightly inconvenient! It can then get distracting. You want to get on with life, but your body wants sex. I have befriended my high sex drive more - at first it was a bit of a shock. But when you're chopping vegetables and on the point of orgasm it can be really inconvenient! Also driving in the car I get urges sometimes. A humping movement helps to alleviate it.
I think it depends on one's own sexual journey - psychologically and physically. My body has changed - in my twenties and thirties I used to be able to achieve orgasm by just squeezing my legs together, but now I can spend up to half and hour or three quarters of an hour bringing myself to orgasm (when intercourse is not convenient with my husband). I can do it quickly if I want, but these days I take more time and enjoy it. The physical need for deep penetrative sex has passed at the moment (though it might return, one never knows!) - that was really difficult for me, and I very nearly considered buying a vibrator! But I like natural best, with my husband. He wasn't against me buying one, but in the end I resisted because I thought it would make my problem worse.
I think we just have to learn to go with the flow, but it can be distressing if you really want sex, but masturbating makes you feel lonely. Sex was created to be in relationship after all. I think this is where people struggle sometimes.
You dont have to actually masturbate by inserting anything in yourself and fear of loosing your virginity, what you can try is clitoris touching it will ease you out and satisfy your sexual desire to much extent and it isnt harmful also
I am married women (25yrs) nd so much intrested in sex but my husband is so intrested in it.v hve been married 1.5yrs ago and this problem is there from day 1.v hardly hve happy moments together(say once in 2 or 3months .. ) Bcoz of this i am so disturbed and unable to concentrate on any other my feelings or stop such feelings(i dont want to be satisfied with any other techniques and all)(Havnt planned for kids yet)
There were a few responses that alluded to masturbation and the "knowledge" of wanting to have sexual intercourse. But my issue arises from being in a dead sleep and having multiple orgasms during the night simply by what's happening in my brain. Having 70 orgasms within 3 weeks is simply exhausting. I wake up more exhausted than before I went to sleep. During sleep I'm not thinking about any particular individual or event, it just happens over and over again. And similar to a prior post, it interferes with my ability to function at work and at school due to the exhaustion. I also notice that exercise actually intensifies the condition (for whatever reason). Who knows, perhaps more dopamine is being manufactured in the brain. I know these "feelings" were heightened when I thought about a particular individual when I was awake. I've talked with him via the phone, but I've never physically met him. And I felt like if I ever were to ever meet him, we would only have sex for days on end. How's that as a first date with a person you've never met? I think we are simply the male and female version of each other for the most part. He has described some things I can totally can relate to. He is also a very perceptive person without being brash which heightens the experience even more.