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Q: Hiding the cutting

asked by: lovedByMyMan on August 21st, 2009

New User

One of my friends is a cutter,last month her boyfriend found out that she cuts,And he had a hard time seeing them because she would like cover her arm and when he asked to see them she would fight over it and after a wile she gave up so she let him see them.He talked to her and told her how much he loved her and that he wouldn't know what to do if he lost her,he convinced her to stop,a few weeks after he proposed to her.Well the other day her boyfriend got a message saying that his girlfriend was wearing sweatshirts when it was 90 degrees outside he freaked out and txted his girlfriend and said go online now!Then he said "Are you cutting I want the truth right now!"She asked him why..and then he said because you were wearing a sweatshirt outside and it was 90 degrees outside So tell me if you are cutting or not if you are I will not talk o yo for a while.Even though she was cutting she told him no she wasn't.What I need to know is answers to these questions.Please please try to answer some.

Why did he automatically think she was cutting?
How can someone tell if others are cutting?
Why did he freak out?
Is it possible for others to tell if someone just currently cut?
Should I tell him that she has been cutting...?
Why did she lie to him about not cutting

Do you have any advise on what I should do?Or why people cut themselves?Please Please!!Help me!!

Replies(3)

kdlee

replied on August 21st, 2009

Supporter

Honey welcome ot the fourm..

Cutting is done to either get attention or more often to try to deaden the worldly pain..Whent he outside world is so awful something has to give..A cutter may go for a blade to try to think of anything but what is happening on the outsdie..

Anyone who cuts and it's 90 degrees out willc over up to hide their pain, scars and blood trials that dry scaley..They will also not want to answer questions or accusations..We all have things we do and prefer not to have everyone jump in and show anger..But , how can you not show anger when the one you love is hurting themselves and you think OMG what is going on..

Your friend need support..Whether that is from a pastor or a specialist one that isn't out to harm or accuse someone who will lsiten..It is important this person talk truthfully to their BF..If their relaitonship is strong thenhe will stay and help her..She in turn must learn cutting doesn't help and to be turthfull..I am here if need to talk just PM..k

Users who thank kdlee for this post: lovedByMyMan

lovedByMyMan

replied on August 21st, 2009

New User

Thank you so much I really appreciate the help that you gave me.

kdlee

replied on August 21st, 2009

Supporter

Yo are welcome honey..It's hard to know someone you love is hurting so badly..Just be there for her and help her get the help she needs..God Bless..k

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